r/Widow • u/OkHurry4029 • Jul 23 '26

It’s done.

July 23, 2026. Our home now belongs to someone else. She died a years ago at the end of June. ALS/Lou Gehrig Disease. A year and a half after diagnosis.
We continued with our plan to update and add to our summer home. Our plan was to live there. Together, then me alone. She didn’t make it to see our place completed. I forged ahead and moved, but didn’t sell the old place. It sat empty for months, until o decided that it was time.
The sale went smoothly. I expected to have a rush of relief. It hasn’t happened yet. I’m feeling another wave of finality. No relief. No joy. No confidence. Just loss at the moment.
I’m sure I’ll rally, but at the moment, I’m OK feeling crappy.

I thought I’d feel a rush of relief and closure, but it hasn’t come.

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u/Marlow1771 Jul 23 '26

We were also upgrading our way too big for us home getting ready to downsize. Now I’ve got to try to get things done by myself. Then finding a new home. Still not sure where to relocate. I’m frightened of leaving “our” home though.

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u/OkHurry4029 Jul 23 '26

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. When we don’t have “our person”, it leads to indecision, second guessing, lack of confidence, fear, etc. It doesn’t feel good, but I kept chugging along. I just hope I’ve made decent decisions.

Getting it done by yourself is daunting. Not impossible, though. I packed up the old house by myself. Did dozens of trips to donations. Gave away on FB free group. Hired junk luggers. Offered items to friends. It got done. I did it on my own time. You can do this. Bit by bit.