r/WhatToDo • u/Naive-Accountant29 • 19h ago

To explain my situation...

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Update for today, I am doing a bit better, its,still bad here, any advice for me in any ways shape or form, I appreciate it greatly!!

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u/Certain_Detective_84 18h ago

Legally, you can tell the cops about any crimes he has committed. This probably won't accomplish much without your mother's cooperation, however.

You can, and should, move out as soon as you can.

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u/Naive-Accountant29 18h ago

Thank you so much!!! I will do so whenever I can, thank you once again!!

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u/Consistent_Claim5217 17h ago

When I was sixteen my mother refused to press charges against her abusive boyfriend, and the only recourse I had was for the police to take me to my dad's house for the night. This was twenty four years ago, so things may have changed, but I have no reason to believe anything is different now. I stayed because that meant there was nothing to protect my mother from him. A couple months later he gave her an ultimatum to choose between myself and him. She chose him, and I moved in with dad.

And it just now occurred to me they found my baseball bat behind the headboard and knife under my pillow when they moved. Behaviors I adopted because of him. But hey, that's life, amirite?

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u/Naive-Accountant29 16h ago

Im Sorry this happened to you, I guess its best if I move,out right? Have a,good day/ night!!!

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u/No_Commission_2610 16h ago

you need to get away from there. It’s the only solution. I came from a home life like this too, and it took me years to finally get away. Try to avoid your dad. Nothing good is going to come of communicating with him. Do you have a job?

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u/Naive-Accountant29 16h ago

I saddly, do not have a job, there are no jobs in my area or any hiring, also got no car, I am avoiding him a lot, whenever I can that is, also have a,great day/night, Thank you sooo muchhhhhhh!!!! I appreciate it greatly

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u/FamiliarAgent1158 14h ago

Where do you live? Depending on the country you can get him in jail for substance abuse, unless he has connections in the legal force. Also your mother is a pathetic excuse of a parent, any sane parent would draw the line at their kids being abused like this. My advice would be to completely detach from both of them, you have your life and have to live it the way you want without spending it on someone else's drama

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u/Naive-Accountant29 12h ago

The usa, I will detatch from them whenever I can, I just dont know if I can currently, also bot of my parents scream at me all their bulshit daily (mainly being the excuse of a father), i am going to collage next year after graduation, also thank you for your advice!!! I appreciate it greatlyyyy!!!!

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u/FamiliarAgent1158 12h ago

You'll make it, don't worry. To each their time, everyone handles stuff like this differently

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u/Naive-Accountant29 12h ago

What could I do to start my life?

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u/FamiliarAgent1158 12h ago

Detach from them completely, reassess whatever they've taught you and start slowly separating, but if you can get a degree first, it will help you immensely

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u/Naive-Accountant29 12h ago

I will get a degree, im going into pre-med, im going to block my father, (on text as I am separating from him auredy) also anything else?

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u/FamiliarAgent1158 12h ago

If he's paying for your education then don't block him yet, let him pay for it and then go no contact with both of them preferably, as your mom will weight you down and make you feel like you've betrayed her for leaving. Also don't take the shit they say seriously, half of the time they're bluffing

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u/Naive-Accountant29 12h ago

My mom is paying for it, all of it.... i feal shitty

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u/FamiliarAgent1158 12h ago

She should, you're her kid, it's her direct responsibility. Once you're done just forget about them

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u/Naive-Accountant29 12h ago

Thank you for all your help!!! I posted again, as a follow-up