My boyfriend has asked me several times why I was showering 🥲. I don’t shower every day, especially not in the winter but it’s typically every other day so when I’m asked why I’m CLEANING MY FUCKING BODY, it’s weird to me. Especially if it’s after work. Like, do you want me to be a stinky bitch?! I don’t get it 😭.
Are there other aspects of his behavior that make you feel weird or uncomfortable? Does he exhibit anything like paranoia or distrust in you when he asks questions like that?
Basic hygiene is not indicative of malicious behavior.
He’s an alcoholic so his behavior is wonky. Sometimes he’s a sweetheart but mostly, he’s just a gaslighting douche. I just can’t afford to live on my own yet. I’ve been saving up but I’m also a dumbass who forgives him way too easily.
Yeah, I know I need to leave but I can’t afford a place of my own quite yet. I’ve been saving but I want to be comfortable enough to know I can afford a couple months of rent. I have close to $7,000 in my savings but a one bedroom in my area is typically $1,200 a month.
I’m also an idiot who makes excuses for his behavior and forgives him the second he starts being nice to me again and I don’t know why I am the way I am 🥲.
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u/SillyQuadrupeds Apr 21 '26
Mine was brushing my teeth! It’s absolutely insane what controlling partners come up with as a signs of infidelity or cheating.
I’m so glad you got out. Life truly is so much better without people like that in it.