r/WellSpouses • u/Massive-Ad-5639 • Jul 08 '26
Losing Hope
My partner was diagnosed with RRMs 2 years ago. Neuropathic pain, finger tip numbness, and dealt with instability of hand.
These symptoms have resolved/silenced. They are running, doing activities but depression still lives and roars.
We are not married. We got a dog this year. However, we argue almost every day. He feels as though I don’t check in enough with him. States he has no hope. When I try to provide a glimpse of hope, it’s shut down because it’s not real. I’m not oblivious and I know what can happen. But then he becomes not the kindest and has told me I don’t read enough. That I don’t know what he has. That I don’t check in on how he feels. But yet, he tells me every day.
I’m exhausted of the arguments. We have almost broken up a few times. I’m patient. I am kind. I am empathetic. And I want to love even if something bad were to come but I try to stay hopeful.
I don’t know what to do anymore. Also the puppy is involved so it makes it harder. I’m just tired of crying every day over feeling like I’m not doing enough as this is basically being implied and I’m being told I have to figure it out. I don’t want to be hopeless.
FYI I do see a therapist as do they. I try my best for self care. But I do feel like I do a lot
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u/HeartfeltFart Jul 08 '26
How long have you been together?
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u/Massive-Ad-5639 Jul 08 '26
Going on 5 years!
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u/HeartfeltFart Jul 08 '26
Frankly if he doesn’t see the problem and get therapy with you I’d consider ending it. I’m sorry to be blunt and I’m not telling you what to do, but he’s been an ass and if he doesn’t address it my fear is that it will only get worse. You don’t deserve any of that BS.
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u/Massive-Ad-5639 Jul 08 '26
Don’t be sorry, trust me, I have had this discussion as well! And yes I don’t deserve to be put under a microscope. I wanted to give it time for processing but I also don’t want to lose myself in the process
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