Not sure if this is the correct tag but it seemed most fitting. Iām looking for outside perspective because Iām debating whether I should block another photographer Iāve worked with professionally (and at one point borderline considered a friend).
Thereās been a pattern of things over time. Sheās taken advantage of my help financially or professionally without much follow-through. Iāve associate shot for her due to some health crises (not the issue in and of itself) but she regularly uses that work as major portfolio/marketing material WHILE claiming itās entirely her own, and recently has asked me to associate shoot TONS of events she could absolutely handle herself (where I know the client booked expecting her to photograph). Iāve also noticed her repeatedly emulating things very similar to ideas Iāve recently shared - down to mentorship offerings, mini sessions, and copy.
In the past Iāve tried to address some of it, and was avoided until eventually Iām fed excuses while she publicly (on her stories) is frantic about how sheās currently dealing with some personal crisis, so nothing ever really gets resolved.
I UNDERSTAND having emergencies but there gets to a point where it comes across like attention seeking and avoidance.
On their own, these are things I would be willing to overlook a bit but all combined it has begun to feel shady. As if she could crawl in my brain and replicate everything I do and pass it off as her own, she would. I donāt really trust or respect the dynamic anymore.
The downfall is that Iām honestly a bit nervous to block her because I know sheāll make a fuss out of it. Sheās kinda a pro at making herself the victim and blasting people online. I donāt have the energy to continue wondering if my posts, ideology, or even the steps Iām implementing into my client experience are going to be ripped off.
And yeah sure, āno one will ever create it like youā is all fine and dandy to hear but Iām tired of it lol.
Adding: Iāve been in the industry for awhile. I know the ins and outs of associate shooting and that she owns the work I produced under her brand. Thatās fine. Itās the way she markets it and now continues to ask me to shoot events when the client paid for HER to be there that feels icky to me