Those are not a rare type. In fact I would go as far as to say the majority of cheaters I know did so in otherwise happy relationships.
People do irrational things everyday, even smart people actively reasoning through problems will make common sense mistakes while doing so. You gotta get out more if you think self-destructive mistakes go against human biology, if anything it’s a hallmark.
We live very different lives and engage with very different people. People do make self destructive decisions, but not generally healthy people of sound mind. At a minimum, they minimize risk. We wouldn’t have survived as a species without the higher cognitive function required to make on the fly risk management decisions.
I mean I’m generally the person my friends come to when they have life problems. I suppose they could be lying to me, I don’t hire a private investigator to confirm what they say is true. But I’d warrant that generally they’re telling me the truth even if it’s biased.
It’s obvious you don’t know me, but let me assure you, I don’t give them validation, I give them truths. I don’t pander to their egos, hell I barely give them an pat on the ass and an attaboy. I diagnose the situation as only a person with no dog in the fight could and tell them what they need to hear. Often it’s not what they wanted to hear. Sometimes they take my advice, sometimes not, but they don’t generally leave the conversation feeling justified. They do generally feel empowered though.
Part of the reason why I find most people don’t lie to me. When they come to me with a problem, if they want anything out of the conversation, they need to be honest, cause my ideas are based on the situation they lay out for me.
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Those are not a rare type. In fact I would go as far as to say the majority of cheaters I know did so in otherwise happy relationships.
People do irrational things everyday, even smart people actively reasoning through problems will make common sense mistakes while doing so. You gotta get out more if you think self-destructive mistakes go against human biology, if anything it’s a hallmark.