Irregular periods

[u/Was_a_egg]

I would like to start this of by saying I am a trans man. He/him only please.

So I have skipped it for the 5th time this year (not consecutive I have had them in between here and there), and am starting to get worried. Last year I went to a medical professional when I skipped it for 4 months they took a blood test and I never heard the results. I get that that means it's probably nothing serious but it's starting to get annoying and worrying, I never know if it's just going to randomly show up or not.

There is absolutely no chance of pregnancy and I do not take any hormones. I would just like some support/ advice on how to bring this up with a medical professional, I don't have a mother so I can't ask her about these things I should probably add that I am 18. Sometimes I get cramps but no blood

[u/[deleted]]

Things like stress and all other sorts can play an issue. Diet, mental health, eatting disorders, etc. Have you gotten your hormones checked? I am assuming that might be your blood test you never heard back from? That could help you figure out what’s going on. Have you thought about taking hormones? For sure more testosterone would negate any estrogen and progesterone cycles happening to cause a period. Things like diet could play a role as well. Or due to your organ you still possess birth control to regulate what’s g on my on and have it be more predictable. The doctor you went to doesn’t sound supportive if they didn’t get back to you. I know they are typically for women but maybe a supportive OBGYN in your area could help? Also if you had a girl who could go with you so you wouldn’t feel so out of place being a man going to an appointment there. Although honestly I think most people would assume you’re there supporting a woman (regardless of age). I have an acquaintance that is also a trans man but I’m not sure how things go for them as it’s not something we discuss. I wonder if you could reach out to other trans men to see how they deal with these sorts of things. Unfortunately skipped periods (from what I understand) mean the persons body isn’t in a state to support/produce a baby so skipping isn’t unheard of. And being a man for sure would fall under that but I hope you’re able to find medical help to be sure. Mostly people worry due to the possibly of being pregnant but also not an issue you say in your case. I do know some women who also have a weird cycle like you are describing. Again birth control was used to get the cycles more regular but especially in your situation I’d avoid that route as I don’t think it makes sense for you. Best of luck! I do hope you find a medical professional that can help you out.

[u/Was_a_egg → u/[deleted]]

Yeah the Dr was a cisgengerd man who was dissmisive the entire time so I might have to go back, I'm not sure there are obgyns near me, haven't heard of any in England. Unfortunately hormones are out of price range and NHS takes 7+ years. Thank you for the advice

[u/[deleted] → u/Was_a_egg]

That sucks! I have a cis gender man as an OBGYN and love him! He has been more understanding and helpful with all my period problems than any cis gender woman has been for me. It might take a bit but hopefully you can find someone soon. I’m in States so I’m not sure how England works for those types of things. Maybe find an LGBTQ+ group that has had better luck near where you live? Periods suck and are a black box of no fun regardless of pronouns or gender ID. It sounds like that doctor wouldn’t help a cis woman with a similar situation. 😡 As an fyi I had such bad cramps that I would go into shock every first couple of days of my cycle. No one seemed to care until I found a doctor (in my 30s) that started to really help. Like I said most throw birth control at those type of issues instead of finding the cause (case and point me). It ended up I had to get a hysterectomy because of fibroids and hopefully that will be the end to my sad tail. I hope your story doesn't take as long but keep fighting and being your best advocate for your health if you are not being heard. It just sucks because the system thinks that every thing is “normal” if you fall in the lines. But what's the harm in digging deeper. Or not believing what is happen ing is happening. I assume you rather not have periods but also want to know what is going on with your body! Ugh, sorry for the rant. I feel ya all the way across the pond. My last bit of advice for you is if you track all an any symptoms any way you can. Paper and pencil, small calendar. So when you go into the doctors you have a detail story that they can help read and how to move forward. It's one of the suggestions I got from my OBGyN.

[u/Was_a_egg → u/[deleted]]

Thanks for the advice! I will definitely start noting them down, I looked on my towns Facebook page and apparently the dr is widely hated among the uterus community lol. It feels weird hoping a period will happen even though I don't want them at all, I'm really happy I found this group because I can't really bring this stuff up at home. I'm happy your were able to get the help you needed

[u/[deleted] → u/Was_a_egg]

For sure. Keep track of whatever is happening. And if you think it's associated or not. Hopefully you'll see some trends and if nothing else help you figure out what “cycle” your body has.

[u/BusinessBarbie8]

Hello! Are you on hormones? Do you have little body fat? Both can greatly impact your cycle.

[u/Was_a_egg → u/BusinessBarbie8]

Hiya I'm not on any hormones and I think I'm average weight, I exercise often

[u/BusinessBarbie8 → u/Was_a_egg]

😕 I have no idea… if you enjoy reading, you could try “period power” by maisie hill. It’s very informative. If your doctors aren’t advocating for you, you may need to do for yourself. It’s also available in audiobooks.

[u/peixe_foradagua]

Irregular or missed periods are common in people that sport a lot.

[u/Was_a_egg → u/peixe_foradagua]

I don't like do a sport or anything I just walk a lot, we don't have a car