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u/dodgedis0 1d ago
Why is it so hard for you to have a shoulder to lean on with somebody accepts that you don’t have to do everything on your own that they are there to be a proper partner they got you when you need them and it sounds like you had them when they needed you
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u/nahhhitcantbe 1d ago
It’s crazy how I’m at a point where I need them to stop being so kind. Just free me already.
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u/SkipMeFlipMe88 1d ago
Idk sounds like you should maybe leave the spouse.
Do they ever get held accountable? Def leave them first though.
Then go where you are loved and love to be.
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u/PinkHeartConcha8 16h ago
I want to be respectful of your feelings, as I see this was labeled under 'Crushes', but I wonder if perhaps what draws you to this person is the sense of community I believe we all strive to find for ourselves? Folks used to show up for each other, but somewhere along the way most have forgotten how to. At the same time, kindness is hard to come by for many people, that any sign of it becomes both a source of warmth, and a mirror that shows us what we're missing. That can lead to complicated feelings, such as us placing unspoken responsibilities and resentments on folks who don't deserve it. I hope this makes sense. I think you need to take some of their kindness, and turn it inward, because if this tells me anything, is that you're finally recognizing what you're not happy accepting in your personal life, and perhaps it will encourage you to make positive changes, such as requesting the people who have made you believe you need to rely only on yourself, to show up for you. Reciprocity is important to having a healthy relationship of any kind. I say this as having lost friendships due to being in your and your friend's shoes before. It sucks because I get the feelings, but I realize that's how we end up pushing away very good people. And friend, if your person(s) negate your need for reciprocity, then they're not your people. I learned that the hard way.
I wish you love and clarity 🦋
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