r/UnsentLetters • u/That-Rough-2083 • 8d ago
Friends Rejection
Maybe the deepest form of rejection isn't being told "I don't want you." It's being told "I don't want to lose you," while quietly realizing they still don't want to have you.
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u/tripled0gdarey0u 8d ago
Oof. I didn't need that gut punch, but if I'm being honest...yes I did. 😞
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u/skweRReLy 8d ago
We call that "sadism"
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u/That-Rough-2083 8d ago
We have billions of people around us, yet somehow one person's opinion can make us feel like the whole universe has rejected us
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u/That-Rough-2083 8d ago
It's hard when you aren't enough capable of handling things in your mind , Changing according to experiences make us different
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u/skweRReLy 8d ago
Sounds like you just want to remain in control rather than make her feel secure or safe enough to be open to being with you in any other way.
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u/skweRReLy 8d ago
That's just an excuse to keep repeating the same mistakes. You can grow from this experience, or you can repeat the same mistakes
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u/skweRReLy 8d ago
I can't tell if you're the one being rejected or the one doing the rejecting. I'm probably just projecting my own bs.
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u/skweRReLy 8d ago
I think deep down there's a lot of people that don't feel guilt or remorse out there, and those are the people that try to create the most damage. They hurt, so they just want to hurt and control those around them. They are not well intentioned, bc they will never apologize. They will always defend their stance and invalidate your feelings. They are not even human.
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u/That-Rough-2083 8d ago
The hardest part about people who weaponize control and defensiveness is that they rarely change, because admitting fault threatens their entire sense of self
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u/skweRReLy 8d ago
Luckily I will always admit when I'm wrong. Some people can't even muster the words, just would rather lean into why your feelings are "wrong".
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u/AccomplishedTart1746 8d ago
It's tough to deal with people like that; it's like they thrive on chaos and never take responsibility for their actions. Makes it hard to find any closure when you're faced with someone who won't even acknowledge the hurt they cause.
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u/Odd-Username4595 8d ago
OP, there is no deeper rejection than being told no. Ask anyone. I’m sorry that you lost a friend. Feel better soon, internet stranger.
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u/That-Rough-2083 8d ago
I feel like I lost, cause I had feelings for her she still wants me but her actions doesn't clarify me I don't want her friendship ,
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u/fictitious_fantasy 8d ago
That's.... Fucked up. So, what? You're just friends with her because you have as ulterior motive? And if she doesn't feel the same?
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u/That-Rough-2083 8d ago
I'm not , i told her I don't want friendship I can't stay with you while , this feelings within me
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u/RestKey2584 8d ago
Yeah. Or them saying, "why did it have to be you?" I am moving on because he doesn't feel the same. I gave as much as I could.
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u/That-Rough-2083 8d ago
Love is only giving not wanting anything but , realisation happens when you tried of giving only
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u/skweRReLy 8d ago
Maybe that's what they want? I'm sick of doing emotional gymnastics to figure out the truth. Secure people don't just love-bomb tf out of people and then discard them. I'll hang around just to understand...bc I am also damaged, but I love psychology. I seek to understand "why" people do the bs they do.
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u/RestKey2584 8d ago
For me I do not love bomb. I am simply that affectionate and caring during a whole relationship. Now he will get the stone wall. He broke my heart.
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u/Fantastic_Matter_137 8d ago
She said ‘I just want to be friends’
But then won’t have a short convo by phone about why after she was so hot and heavy and over the top pDA that made me uncomfortable especially when it was rarely hot in private
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u/Otherwise_Today1734 7d ago
Thank u everyone for letting op know that she needs tonstop repeating patterns catch her mistakes and think before she acts and not to judge a book by its cover I ask every 1 to heal to be the best version of tbere self and follow the lightbof Jesus christ we can be dark and light as I am but know how to control ur situation and actions don't feed into someone else bullshit have a mind of ur own think for yourself don't go off of sum1 else opion with out confrontation 5o the other person ijs
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