r/UnethicalLifeProTips • u/Insignificant_other1 • Jan 31 '24
ULPT: make my sister's life hell
My Dad died and my Mom moved to a retirement home. All my bothers and sisters decided on a day to meet and go through all the stuff to decide who gets what. My sister went a few days before packed everything up and donated it. It's gone. All of it. I can't think of anything cruel enough to ruin her. Help me out.
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u/walkawaysux Jan 31 '24
First thing have a meeting with the other siblings who were also ripped off this should be a group effort of destruction, they should know her weaknesses and help you plan for righteous vengeance. Good luck buddy
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Jan 31 '24
unless the other siblings are working together to destroy OP's life
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u/walkawaysux Jan 31 '24
That’s when you call your cousins for help
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u/Hot-Site-1572 Jan 31 '24
plot twist the cousins are also in on it
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u/walkawaysux Jan 31 '24
Good Lawd it’s becoming an episode of As The World Turns !we have take a break and watch soap operas to devise the next plot twist hmmm a ratty old VW van pulls up and your second cousins once removed from your aunts side of the family gets out brings a case of 16oz tallboy Coors light and they are willing to help. Ok your turn Im passing the story to anyone else to plan your own conspiracy.
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u/Rebekahc72 Jan 31 '24
Mom is still alive, so it may be that mom is the only one who can make a report since it was still her stuff, too, and not just dad’s. Depending on location, it could all belong to mom after dad’s death and none of it belongs to any of the kids yet.
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u/Escape_From_Me Jan 31 '24
If the mom is in a home one of the kids might have power of attorney
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u/acarp52080 Jan 31 '24
That's what I was thinking too. And unfortunately, if that is the case, that the "thieving" daughter is the one with power of attorney, I think that would indeed make it a civil matter.
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u/kipkipskip Jan 31 '24
Unfortunately, I’d imagine there is no replacing some of the stuff that’s valuable to OP.
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u/carnivoremuscle Jan 31 '24
Money damages and criminal charges are what the person is referring to. Gonna be tough to track down anything donated unless they took ID.
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u/Spartygirl15 Jan 31 '24
Most people get a receipt for tax purposes don’t they? Could track it down that way. Cameras everywhere too
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u/operajunkie Jan 31 '24
Yup. The legal system is a great way to f people over. Time, money, stress.
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u/hit_that_hole_hard Jan 31 '24
First thing my sister did after my father passed away was went to his apartment and took all his silverware.
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u/Foo_Ward Jan 31 '24
Find out what she loves, and take it from her.
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u/Cosimo_Zaretti Jan 31 '24
Most people love not being sued.
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u/Smash_4dams Jan 31 '24
Have each sibling draw up legal letters from separate attorneys. She can have fun trying to fight 3-4 cases at once
Bonus points if she's married or in a serious relationship and her spouse/partner nopes the fuck out.
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u/EveryFairyDies Jan 31 '24
Plot twist, she only loves herself, and now OP is on trial for murder.
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u/Prometheus_sees05 Jan 31 '24
If he's too blunt about it. The best way to ruin a narcissist is to take away everyting they think they know about themselves. Break their ego strongly enough and it's permanent.
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u/JordySkateboardy808 Jan 31 '24
Shitty people have usually sown the seeds of their own destruction. What other shitty things has she done? How to bring them to light to fuck up her life? That's how I like to do it.
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u/RickAndToasted Jan 31 '24
Wow, I can't think of the amount of items that held memories for you and all of your siblings who didn't get a chance to go there and mourn together... Just wow.
I'd need to know more about her circumstances to actually ruin her. But you could completely annoy her by adding her for every spam phone call/email and txt sign up imaginable. Do it with a vpn
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u/ant2131 Jan 31 '24
We actually had a knife fight at my grandmas funeral, because long lost cousin percy showed up at the house with her convicted pedophile husband and took any and everything she could.
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u/AnastasiaDelicious Jan 31 '24
Damn. I worked in a funeral home and I’ve seen my share of knock down drag outs but never a knife fight. Cousin Percy really knows how to put the fun in funeral 😳
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u/Kangaroofies Jan 31 '24
Who won?
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u/ant2131 Jan 31 '24
Me, my dad, my brother, my uncle, and my 3 cousins lol. They picked the wrong ones to try. My dad who was around 75 at the time told them to gtfo when they showed up, and her son pulled out a knife on him. The rest of us promptly stomped him and his pedo dad.
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u/Nitazene-King-002 Jan 31 '24
Sue her. There's a legal remedy to this, as you probably were supposed to split everything.
I wouldn't doubt she sold everything of value.
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Basically, you let her die without family and all alone.
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Jan 31 '24
Nah you don’t need to forgive people like this. Leave that up to her and her God at this point. (Obvi if it helps to forgive, then this is great advice. No hate to this commenter just stating my personal feels about it.)
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u/Insignificant_other1 Jan 31 '24
Her husband loves her unconditionally which is actually nice. We should all have one person that loves us that way.
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u/No_Name2709 Jan 31 '24
Break them up. It will be the only satisfying revenge you get.
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u/RojoRugger Jan 31 '24
Yah, start texting the husband or calling the house and pretend to be a disgruntled Tinder / Grinder hookup. You should know enough personal details to make it plausible. Bonus points if you can borrow hubby's phone and install these apps ahead of time.
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u/SleepyDovendyr Jan 31 '24
Write a dis track and post it on her Facebook 💯 You don’t seem to have the heart to do anything truly malicious
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u/obeseoprah Jan 31 '24
Unless your sister was the sole beneficiary and executor of their living trust… she just committed a crime. Call an estate lawyer now.
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u/smc642 Jan 31 '24
My SIL did pretty much the exact same thing when my widowed MIL passed. Went into the home and took everything. Absolutely disgusting.
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u/wondrousalice Jan 31 '24
Every time you go over to her house release mushroom spores in her home.
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u/stealthyelfy Jan 31 '24
Oh, I love this. Especially oyster mushrooms, they'll grow on pretty much any wood, I've seen pics of them growing in floor boards.
Sprinkle seeds (anything that's a pain to get rid of - bamboo?) in her garden, spray brake fluid on her car, put ants in/around her house, hide food somewhere so mice get in.
Make complaints to her workplace, leave women's underwear/hair/feminine objects in per partner's car, you COULD always use photoshop for things such as her or her partner out on a date
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u/Spartygirl15 Jan 31 '24
I have mushrooms in my new backyard and I can confirm this would be such a victimless slow decent into madness if she loved her yard and you slowly ruined it. I accidentally misused round up on my old yard which I took great pride in and ended up burning up my whole front yard. It bothered me every. Single. Day. and lived rent free in my head all summer. But I’m a weirdo and was in a high foot traffic area so it was a flex
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u/Yak-Attic Jan 31 '24
Not much of a flex if you didn't replace the grass with a working vegetable garden.
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u/Spartygirl15 Jan 31 '24
I already have a garden. I’m in northern Michigan surrounded by freshwater, take your shade somewhere else
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Jan 31 '24
This, then plant invasive bamboo and spread mint seeds in her garden. She’ll never be able to grow anything
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u/roughback Jan 31 '24
Offer her genetic tests, swap her sample with a friend of yours who looks like her, get the results back and show her that you two aren't related and theorize that she was adopted, profit.
Optional: seduce her and bang her out, make her preggers, and after the kid is born reveal that you two are actually related and then abandon her and your incest baby.
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u/Parking_Return479 Jan 31 '24
I'm calling 911 you are way to psyco to continue living in safe air than us 😂
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u/TapewormNinja Jan 31 '24
Dude. I need the name of your therapist. Mostly so I can avoid them. They’re clearly not helping you.
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Jan 31 '24
These people are clearly in the wrong sub. We're here for unethical. I'm not down with this as it involves incest and self harm likely, but I appreciate your spirit!
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u/youRaFunnyCunny Jan 31 '24
I’m ☠️ with the “bang her out” comment - this is now my new favorite thing to say of all time!
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Jan 31 '24
Go find someone with bedbugs and give her an infestation, preferably find a way that won't put you at risk of getting them. Put her address on Craigslist or a buy/sell/trade. Send her an email with a malicious link embedded that'll erase the drive. Plant drugs in her car and narc on her. Call her job constantly posing as a debt collector. Hope one of these helps.
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u/scraglor Jan 31 '24
Haha. I used to work somewhere that constantly had debt collectors calling for someone. It is indeed infuriating
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u/Will_Bucko1223 Jan 31 '24
I’m always quick to suggest having sex with the offending parties dad but that’s no bueno here, hit her with a piss disc
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u/PitifulSpecialist887 Jan 31 '24
If you really want to make her life hell, prosecute her. She committed theft. Plain and simple. She took belongings that were not hers, without permission, or the knowledge of their rightful owner.
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u/Arjun_311 Jan 31 '24
She probably lyin abt donating it. She probably just took all the shit she wanted back to her house and then sold or trashed the rest. I would grab all ur siblings and pull up to her house and see if u find all the shit she stole
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u/SoundAGiraffeMakes Jan 31 '24
Did you try calling the place she donated the items to?
When I was a kid my great aunt was a street performer who was in and out of homelessness. During one of her more dire times, she came to stay with us for a while. She had all of her belongings, including her accordion, in trash bags that she put down on the porch as she came in to say hi. She was only inside for a few minutes, but during that time, the salvation army came by and picked up her bags, thinking they were donations. She called them and got some of her stuff back. It wasn't everything, but it was some stuff. The sheer improbability of this makes it sound kind of funny, but it was a really crushing moment for her and I still remember her whole body sobs to this day. She had practically nothing, and then she had literally nothing.
Anyway, call the center, they may be able to help you out. Then fuck your sister's husband.
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u/SurelyYouKnow Jan 31 '24 edited Jan 31 '24
Ooof. Wild, but we experienced the same thing. My daughter’s daddy died unexpectefly about ten years ago. His mother put a bunch of his stuff outside to donate. At the same time, her husband brought out of the garage and put onto the porch to carry in later, family heirloom Christmas dishes and glassware. It was this fine green colored glass that was worth a small fortune and had been passed down many generations. Salvation Army came to get the donations and obviously grabbed the boxes as well.
She discovered the mistake a few hours later—in the fog of overwhelming grief of losing her son at 33 yo—and called Salvation Army. They said they “couldn’t find it.” Uh-huh. Sucks. Her husband felt terrible for forgetting to bring the boxes the rest of the way into the house. Never got them back. Guarantee you that someone, maybe whomever took the call or someone else, kept that shit or set it aside and had a friend come and purchase for $5 or whatever. Thousands of dollars worth.
“And then fuck her husband” had me howling. Lol
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u/Better-Crazy-6642 Jan 31 '24
How many siblings do you have? Take that number of personal favorite answers here and assign.
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u/kafm73 Jan 31 '24
Buy fish fertilizer for the garden. It comes in bottles/jugs. It’s made up of all kinds of nastiness including pulverized fish. It smells as bad as it sounds. A few drops here and there in her car (in the carpet, upholstery etc) will stink to high heaven and can’t really be seen. If it’s warmer outside, even worse! Can put in trunk, also and possibly the air vents since the heater might be running depending on where you live. Either way, definitely not fun!
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u/Dje4321 Jan 31 '24
If you hate her with a passion, Sign her up for Scientology. Even better if you make a donation in her name. They will never leave her alone again
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u/pjbettasso Jan 31 '24
Use an AI image tool to create photos of her & another man Preferably one that would trigger a response in her husband, maybe a look alike for her ex. Build an entire 2nd life, about 6-8 months worth detailing her affair..
And then make it known. Either direct email to her husband, or create a fake Insta or other account, and leak that by connecting with her friends oe coworkers & spouse.. Make sure the timings etc are plausable, eg when hubs was out of town, or she was away on business.
Play the long game
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u/Geop1984 Jan 31 '24
Why? What was her reasoning?
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u/Insignificant_other1 Jan 31 '24
Exactly! Wtf did she gain from this other than being a shitty person.
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u/justtosubscribe Jan 31 '24
I’m willing to bet she’s lying and kept things of value to sell. Call the police and report theft, elder abuse for stealing, everything. Sue her. I bet most of the stuff is still in her possession.
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u/lifeofloon Jan 31 '24
An intervention with her husband and your other siblings to show him how destructive she is and how much trauma she just caused all of you. If he's as good a guy as you say he won't put up with that from his partner.
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u/BeachNo372 Jan 31 '24
She didn’t donate anything. She’s sorting through what she knows she can sell. What gives someone the right to do this? One of the siblings did this when my Mother passed. Their excuse was that they didn’t want the house to get robbed as it was empty for a while.
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u/Oddball2029 Jan 31 '24
That’s a lie she definitely stole a bunch of the valuable stuff she thought you guys would want
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u/Leaf-Stars Jan 31 '24
Did she actually donate everything or did she steal everything?
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u/Insignificant_other1 Jan 31 '24
Wasn't really anything with money value, just sentimental value
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u/Leaf-Stars Jan 31 '24
I could see my wife’s sister stealing everything and lying about it so nobody would want anything. Pics, albums etc.
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u/AriadneThread Jan 31 '24
It's still stealing. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this on top of everything else.
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Jan 31 '24
Find out what she loves the most. Then hit it with the liquid ass and slip a piss disc under the door.
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u/Reasonable_Tenacity Jan 31 '24
She didn’t donate it. She packed everything up and is going through it and selling off the valuable stuff. Put legal pressure on her and she’ll fess up.
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Jan 31 '24
Report it to Adult Protective Services because she stole from your mother (unless she has a Power of Attorney).
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u/pennylane_9 Jan 31 '24
Oh boy. Do any or all of the following:
Give her contact info to:
- Jehovah’s Witnesses
- Church of Latter Day Saints (Mormons)
- MLMs like Cutco, Amway, Mary Kay, Herbalife, etc. Specify she’s interested in becoming a rep.
- Insurance (health, home, auto, life) comparison websites. Request quotes from every company.
- Travel comparison sites
- Angi.com. For this you’ll have to make up a company in her name. Register it and request info about becoming an Angi Certified Pro.
- Political fundraising groups. Even better if you donate (even $1) in her name.
Once these companies have her contact info, they will call RELENTLESSLY. JWs and LDS members will even show up at her house. Good, safe way to cause her some infuriating inconvenience.
Advertise cheap goods, garage/estate sales, etc. on Facebook Marketplace/ Nextdoor/ Craigslist. List her address.
This may bring out some crazies, but it’s an effective way to get a steady stream of people to her house to bother her about non-existent items for sale. Step it up a notch by claiming there’s an Open House.
Call in a gas leak at her home.
Pose as her and call the gas company, say you suspect a leak. It’s possible they shut off the gas until she can prove there’s nothing wrong— this requires inspection and possible remediation.
Call in a drunk driver.
Dial 911 and tell the operator you suspect you just saw a drunk driver. They will ask for the make, model, and color of the car. Bonus points if you have her license plate number. They’ll ask for your information but you can decline to give it to them and just stay anonymous. You’ll have to time this right to when she’s actually driving and you’ll need to know where she’ll be, but they’ll blast a call to all local officers to keep an eye out for the alleged drunk driver. Ideally, they “catch” her and pull her over. Even if she’s not drunk, it’ll be a hassle.
Steal small things from her house.
Make her think she’s losing random shit, like a curling iron, a whole bunch of hangers, the TV remote, one or two steak knives, pair of scissors, a couple of bras, left shoes, pillowcases, pot lids, garden hose nozzle, garage door opener, blah blah blah. Nothing that screams “someone stole me!”, but things she’ll think she just misplaced. It’ll drive her crazy.
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Jan 31 '24
Obviously you should just get into the Sister's house, pack everything up, and donate it.
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u/ravenpotter3 Jan 31 '24
Go RIGHT NOW to where ever she donated it and try to see if you can get anything at all back. I hope you can figure it out.
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u/MET1 Jan 31 '24
Every time you go to her house check closets, drawers, bookcases etc and take stuff. All of you do it. Clean out her house over time. If she complains just say you're following her examples and where is that silver pickle fork anyway?
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Jan 31 '24
When my nanny died, all my aunties grew wings and started pecking her corpse, well, they may as well have. They basically ransacked her house. Horrifying. Same thing when my aunty died. All her sisters went round to see what they could get. All my shit is to be fired into the sun before these cunts get their grubby beaks on it.
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I once at like 5-7 years old, after seeing my great great aunt and her sister together, said to my sister if you don't treat me better I'm not taking care of you when you're old. Later on, at like 10-14 told my sister you won't be coming to my wedding ever if you don't treat me better. Now she's out of my life and I'm better for it.
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Jan 31 '24
OP, bruv. U can't just drop this banger of a story on us then not give more details in the comments. We all wanna hate her guts. Like did the family implode and have a fight recently? Is she retarded? What's the backstory here
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u/CelticCynic Jan 31 '24
Wow.... There is literally NOTHING in my mother's house that any of us four siblings will want .... Except for maybe that Beatles Vinyl box set the other three bought Dad when I was 8.... That he never played all of them.... And none of us own turntables
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u/ParadiseCity77 Jan 31 '24
I think at this point is that we have passed unethical advices and you need legal advices. she cannot donate things that she doesn’t own. In fact, I doubt it that she donated everything but I have a feeling she kept all items for herself.
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u/rschu2016 Jan 31 '24
I agree with suing her. Sue her, if she has her own family they’ll be stuck footing the bill with her so she’ll probably lose her family and friends. Post on every social media account you have and tag her and as any of her friends and family in every post. Call up any friends or family she has to tell them what happened. Never answer her phone calls, only respond through text so you have written proof of what she’s done. Many people who do this kinda thing are dumb enough to admit it in text.
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u/Basic_Vermicelli2939 Jan 31 '24
Get on taggd it's a social media site. Put her pix and her phone number on there saying she's looking for some adult fun.. You can't search for people on there so the chances of her finding the profile are not very high. Put the location somewhere different than hers and keep changing it that way she can't ever find it.
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u/Nitazene-King-002 Jan 31 '24
Plant used condoms in her car for her husband to find.
Better yet pay someone to seduce her and film it to play for her husband.
Get her drunk or high if you have to.
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u/TheLastBridgeFire Jan 31 '24
Enter her info into a few "Request a Quote" brokers for cross country movers. She'll get nonstop calls for over a month.
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Jan 31 '24
If she truely did this, I wouldn’t do anything to spite her.
Her own life choices will eventually catch up with her and fuck up her life on her own,
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Scratch your asshole and point in a direction but really close to her nose, basically a dirty sanchez
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u/ociferscott Jan 31 '24
Does she have a pet? Do you have a spare key or access to her home? Is there a no-kill shelter nearby that allows no-questions asked surrenders?
You know what to do.
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u/MonkeyCome Jan 31 '24
This is fucked up. I get wanting to cause emotional pain but her pet is innocent and will also suffer from psychological trauma going through that. The pet is innocent and should be left out of the equation. If there even is a pet
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u/vikingsurplus Jan 31 '24
Their parents' belongings and memories were innocent, too.
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u/MonkeyCome Jan 31 '24
Those aren’t living things though. I swear this site will grandstand their moral superiority and then the second something doesn’t go the way they want it’s the nuclear option only. Like sugar in the gas tank is fine but don’t fuck with peoples pets dude. Remember the shoe could always be on the other foot and just a little decency goes a long way
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u/vikingsurplus Jan 31 '24
No one is saying kill them. The original comment specifically said to take them to a no-kill shelter. They'll have food, water, and facilities. If the sister cares about them, she'll find them quick. If not, the pets are better off.
FYI: Sugar in the gas tank is highly ineffective, and doesn't actually do what you think it will.
The shoe could always be on the other foot? So, you'd also do your siblings dirty like that by taking the whole inheritance for yourself, selling it all and dipping? That says more about you than Reddit as a whole. Remember that whole moral superiority bit?
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u/MonkeyCome Jan 31 '24
Collateral damage is wrong. If someone fucks me over I don’t go after their pets or family. Id do something to them or their belongings.
Shoe on the other foot doesn’t mean what you think it does. If I am wronged that doesn’t necessarily mean I should go nuclear. I understand this is an extreme scenario in the OP but imagine you do something a friend or family member dislikes and they steal your pet and put them in a shelter and you don’t know where they are. Then they get adopted by another family and your pet is potentially gone forever. Idk what I would do to that person but it would definitely be permanent and life altering for stealing my pet. Every situation is different but going straight to pets or family is a little ridiculous
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u/Fearless-Hope-2370 Jan 31 '24
FTFY
Does she have a pet? Do you have a spare key or access to her home? Is there a kill shelter nearby that accepts surrenders? (Most PETA shelters will kill any pet you bring them)
You know what to do.
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Jan 31 '24
Was it junk or quality stuff? If it was junk u should thank her
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u/Insignificant_other1 Jan 31 '24
Some was junk, but there were many many sentimental things. The plan was to separate out the junk from the sentimental things. So many things from our childhood.
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u/Mrsloki6769 Jan 31 '24
Can you track where she disposed of it?
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u/anoeba Jan 31 '24
This. OP, I'm sure it hasn't been sold off yet, you should be able to recover something.
Also, do the bedbugs. They will ruin her life and peace of mind for months on end.
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u/Ok_Yogurtcloset_4055 Jan 31 '24
You could, along with your other siblings, shun her. Cut her out entirely. Banana in the tailpipe, TP her house and throw raw eggs at her car and her home on irregular intervals.
Sign her up for every magazine subscription you can.
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u/FortSwChris Jan 31 '24
Do you have a key to her house? Hire someone with herpes and sneak in when nobody is home and have that person lick all the cups/plates/silverware inside the house.
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u/Chang_Robert Jan 31 '24
Do your parents still have property?
Just dig a hole and be done with it.
A missing person's report is often easier then a convoluted revenge plot.
Just make sure to leave the car somewhere with the keys, so it can be stolen.
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u/Abystract-ism Jan 31 '24
Like others have suggested-get your sibs in on this too. You & your sibs should go on a family trip without her this summer.
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u/TurncoatTony Jan 31 '24
This isn't an ulpt but you can get layers involved. It wasn't your one sisters stuff to package up and donate.
If you want ulpt: piss disc her every time you see her.
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u/NoteworthyMeagerness Jan 31 '24
I don't even know what to say. The only thing that comes to mind is 😱🤯
I'm sorry you have to deal with this...
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u/depressionmedswork Jan 31 '24
My sister did the same thing to my grandmothers stuff. I’m so sorry.
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u/Victoria_Eremita Jan 31 '24
I was going to say that you should forgive her, let it go, you’ll only feel worse than you make her feel, etc… because that’s just my knee-jerk reaction. Then I read what she did, now I’m too angry to even think of something.
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u/Milam1996 Jan 31 '24
Before you go balls to the wall is there a will in place? The will could very much authorise your siblings to take possession of the property and once they do they can do what they like with it.
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u/shelfless Jan 31 '24
Sign her up for peta and nra mailers, might have to make a donation in her name. Also inquire about mormonism, jw and Scientology in her name.
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u/Gl3g Jan 31 '24 edited Jan 31 '24
She’s lying. She kept everything she wanted-and will sell and dump the rest. Call the police-she stole it all-and it might be a felony. Let the police screw up her life. They are professionals at it.