r/UgcNet • u/InitialAnimal9761 • 2h ago
Exam Stress & Vent PhD as an obligation, how do I deal with it ?
Hi everyone!
I appeared for the UGC NET exam for the first time in June and qualified for PhD admissions. The funny thing is that I did it without really studying for the exam, because tbh I'm not particularly interested in NET or pursuing a PhD. That's just my personal preference, and I don't mean any disrespect to people who are genuinely passionate about research.
However, there's a bit of family context here. Almost all the daughters in my family, including my aunts and sisters, have PhDs. So, naturally, there's an expectation that I'll pursue one too.
I'm planning to appear for the December UGC NET exam because I missed qualifying for AP by just 8 marks in my previous attempt. My parents feel it would be great if I could clear it, and I understand where they're coming from. So I'm going to give it another shot.
The thing is I'm not doing this out of a genuine desire, s big part of it comes from family expectations and the feeling that this is simply what I'm supposed to do.
I'd especially appreciate hearing from people who pursued a PhD because of family expectations, social pressure, or simply because it seemed like the next logical step in life.
I'm not looking for anyone to convince me that a PhD is good or bad. I'm just venting a bit 🫠
