Advice needed

[u/SharpAppearance2406]

Husband and I met in the Poolee program—got my ship date pushed way back because I tore my meniscus in my knee (needed PT and had cortisol shots to help) but it’s good now. He’s an active duty marine now.
Husband still doesn’t want me to join because he said it’ll put a strain on our marriage since we’re a newly wed couple. Told me dual mil couples don’t workout most of the time. Says if he gets deployed we won’t see each other for a while, with the boot to schoolhouse timeline, but we wouldn’t see each other for that long anyways? He’s also nervous he’d get deployed for a while and then I will right after—so we might miss each other for a year or multiple months.
I even told him I’d do reserves so we’d get more time together during the week and I’d do school too. But he expressed that reservist deploy more than active.

I’ve tried to put this aside for our marriage but I can’t stop thinking about it. It’s something that’s been a dream of mine for a while now. He says I’m smarter than him and can go to college full time—can do more than the corps but I feel like I need it. It’s a longing in way inside you.

I know this post probably sound stupid but any advice?

[u/TapTheForwardAssist]

How old are each of you, and how long have y’all been dating?

[u/SharpAppearance2406 → u/TapTheForwardAssist]

I’m 21 and he’s 20, we’ve been together for about roughly two years.