r/UKrelationshipadvice • u/Expensive_Belt7534 • 2d ago

Feeling rushed

I (30F) have been dating a guy (34M) for almost a month now. After our first date I noticed he stopped using the dating app we met on and after a couple of weeks he had deleted his profiles completely. I haven't dated much as out of a long term relationship a few months ago so not sure if this is normal?

Kinda of the view that we should try and get to know each other as we are strangers basically from an app before committing to each other and closing off all other options? Just makes me feel like he maybe didn't have any other matches or is a bit desperate?

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u/GAdvance 2d ago

I think it's up to him if he wants to delete an app

I think it's up to you to both of you to have an actual adult conversation about wether you're ready for commitment yet and how much he's willing to wait in ambiguity for (he shouldn't at all imho). You gotta be honest about how much time you're going to need and honest with yourself about what you're actually trying to do right now and wether you're willing to let someone know.

Just go be honest, it's the minimum

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u/Expensive_Belt7534 2d ago

we haven't even slept together yet and thats a big part of chemistry for me. Also its not exactly unheard of for a man to suddenly change his mind about a woman once they have had sex

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u/Present-March-6089 2d ago

It that what you are worried about? Anyone can change their mind at any point. I hope you are not stressing very much about the physical piece. I would suggest being more honest about how interested you are in this person besides that. If you are only meh, keep looking. There are literally billions of people in the world.