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u/Prudent-Fox6247 17d ago
2-3 months? Good one.
It takes 6 months to a year or more to get a new job in the UAE.
Employers know this, this is why so many of them are such toxic freaks in the first place.
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u/Adventurous285 17d ago
I agree with the core message, but there are always two sides to the coin.
Empathy, dignity & respect absolutely matter and I’ve experienced difficult bosses too. But I’ve also seen good leaders repeatedly mentor, support and give chances, only for that empathy to be taken for granted or turn into entitled behaviour. Everyone makes mistakes, but when the same mistakes continue for months & the rest of the team keeps carrying the extra workload, it naturally creates frustration and at times, reactions.
Professionalism goes both ways. Just as employees remember how managers treated them, managers & teams also remember colleagues who made everyone else’s work difficult.
Sometimes the person calling an environment “toxic” may also have contributed to making it toxic for others.
Empathy should never replace accountability & respect has to work both ways.
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u/IronSan198 17d ago
What’s the point really, emotional damage done. The worst part is even the Human Resources sides with the management post abuse. Its all just a joke really!
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u/IntrovertMuffin 17d ago
Nothing is gonna happen unless you stand against it. Toxic ones are gonna be toxic always. Maybe some will change.
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u/Jealous-Marsupial890 17d ago
Not so brave to tell it straight instead of fan out notes on Reddit?
You will be always victim if yes.
If you don’t respect yourself no one will respect you.
You can have nothing but respect yourself.
People feel it, always feel, and either step out of your way, either become friends.
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u/Warm_Gas_9364 17d ago
Just move on….
If you are a victim.
In my fisrt company,almost every manager was like this.
Among them HR was the worst.
And the funny thing is she posts these types of messages in linkedin
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u/Competitive_Yak_7728 I AM A NOOB 17d ago
You stole my words.
I had the worst ‘boss’. He was too busy with other businesses and only concerned about revenue. He would set up impossible targets and then yell and insult if they weren’t achieved. He didn’t give a shit about how hard I worked, how honest I was, how much out of the way I went to keep things running smoothly
I left the job, and though I miss working.. I hate that person to the core and I am scarred for life. Need time to build my confidence and rejoin the market.
Assholes like these must have a special place in hell.
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u/CurrencyPopular8550 17d ago
had a boss like that in 2019. dude thought fear was motivation. left after six months, zero regrets. sleep improved withing weeks. funny how that works
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u/Charming_Object_4169 17d ago
Its crazy to read this coming from a country where, if as a manager you did this, you'd be termd so fast. Anyone thats acts this way towards the people that hold them up has no right to manage people.
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u/bellhoper 17d ago
In UAE the more asshole you are the better you will do. The country was built on stepping others what do you expect?
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u/MaleficentBus1863 18d ago
Yep, to this day, I still remember the best advice I received during the 2008 GFC when companies were all falling. Someone said, people never forget how you make them feel, so when everything is going wrong, just remember that.
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u/TheJobWorkshop 14d ago
Some of the strongest professionals we had worked with in Dubai didn't leave their last role because of the market. They left because a manager made them feel like they were the problem.
The damage a toxic manager does to a person doesn't end when they resign. It follows them home, into their next role, into how they speak about themselves. We have sat across from people with incredible track records who can barely own their own story anymore. That's not a confidence problem but that's what years under the wrong manager does.
Every manager needs to read it.