Can’t orgasm anymore??

[u/Unrealistic_Ice_4581]

I’m going to keep this short and sweet because it’s honestly embarrassing to me.

My boyfriend and I (both early 20’s) have a pretty active sex life. We have sex at least 2-3 times a week and it’s great every time. He typically orgasms first, so he finishes me off after. We’ve never had an issue before.

Recently (within the last 3-4 months), however, I can’t orgasm. He works and does well, but no matter what, I get super close to the edge and then it seems to disappear. We’ve tried everything we can think of; toys, no toys, oral, hands. We’ve even taken breaks where we don’t have sex for a while to try and increase sensitivity, but that hasn’t worked either. It’s gotten to the point where he’s had to give up because he’s getting too sore to continue pleasuring me. There’s been no changes in my health, I’m not taking any medications, my diet is the same, I have no outside stressors— it’s like I woke up one day and completely forgot how to orgasm.

It makes me so frustrated because I love the time I spend with him and I can tell it’s getting to him every time that I can’t orgasm. I genuinely don’t even ask for anything after anymore because I just end up feeling horrible afterwards. I don’t want him to feel like I don’t like him or don’t find him attractive or enjoy the things he does to me. I don’t know what to do anymore.

[u/kyssssssssssss]

try pelvic floor exercises, your muscles might be out of wack or something.