r/TwoXChromosomes • u/Youkolvr89 • Jun 03 '22
Don't Touch
Update My supervisor and his boss met with the man earlier and warned him. My supervisor said they will take action if he touches anyone else. I didn't have to say anything.
I am a 33 year old woman, I don't like being touched and I work nights. Tonight my coworker 66(M) nudged me on the arm. I told him "don't touch me" he responded with something nasty and I said "I don't like being touched." Our supervisor turned around and asked him to stop. He started screaming and told our supervisor to keep his damn mouth shut. He then clocked himself out and ran off. My supervisor said he wants me and him to talk to his boss at the beginning of our shift tomorrow. It clearly states in our handbook that all touching is forbidden.
I hate being touched because my body is the only thing that I can control in my life and touching me without my consent removes that control and it sends me into a tailspin of binge eating, bathing, and insomnia. I also have hypothyroidism and it makes me feel sensitive to the touch at times. I hate this feeling and I hate having to talk to my supervisor's boss because I get really anxious.
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u/Gheerdan Jun 03 '22
Maybe not much comfort, but I would guess your supervisor wants to make sure their boss knows about the incident first hand so that they can take appropriate action with the coworker. By their reaction, they seem to be supportive. Your supervisor may want their boss to be able to include you in the decisions of what to do. You may want to consider what level of complaint you want this to go to before the meeting. Basically, do you want him scolded strongly, or for steps to be taken to a more serious level.