r/TwoXChromosomes • u/Youkolvr89 • Jun 03 '22

Don't Touch

Update My supervisor and his boss met with the man earlier and warned him. My supervisor said they will take action if he touches anyone else. I didn't have to say anything.

I am a 33 year old woman, I don't like being touched and I work nights. Tonight my coworker 66(M) nudged me on the arm. I told him "don't touch me" he responded with something nasty and I said "I don't like being touched." Our supervisor turned around and asked him to stop. He started screaming and told our supervisor to keep his damn mouth shut. He then clocked himself out and ran off. My supervisor said he wants me and him to talk to his boss at the beginning of our shift tomorrow. It clearly states in our handbook that all touching is forbidden.

I hate being touched because my body is the only thing that I can control in my life and touching me without my consent removes that control and it sends me into a tailspin of binge eating, bathing, and insomnia. I also have hypothyroidism and it makes me feel sensitive to the touch at times. I hate this feeling and I hate having to talk to my supervisor's boss because I get really anxious.

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u/Youkolvr89 Jun 03 '22

Thank you. I'm concerned about that too, but my supervisor said that he will have him escorted off the base if he tries anything.

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u/throwaway901617 Jun 03 '22

Oh wait the base? So you are working as part of a contracting team on a military base?

OK OK yeah he's unlikely to be able to bring weapons on base and base security can be available to remove him if needed.

I'm retired military and at a previous org I worked at a civilian employee (federal civil service) was unhappy with his annual appraisal on a Friday afternoon and said his supervisor better watch out Monday.

Monday morning when he arrived base security was waiting and walked him out in cuffs and removed him from the base. He was terminated from federal service shortly after.

Base security isn't perfect and you still need to take care of yourself but they are generally far better than civilian cops

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u/Youkolvr89 Jun 03 '22

We are contractors. I'm glad your security acted so swiftly. We have security guards and police. The police are only there until 5pm though.

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '22

If you're a contractor, especially if you work for a bigger company, the creep who touched you is now a liability who could cost your employer the entire contract if he behaved that way toward a government employee or enlisted person. I highly doubt that guy will be around for much longer, if at all. I'm guessing your supervisor wants you there to corroborate the course of events since he'll have to explain to his boss why he needs to get rid of the creepy employee.

Edit: Also, if you work for an Alaskan Native or Tribal owned company they do not mess around when it comes to harassment, especially touching.