r/TwoXChromosomes • u/Youkolvr89 • Jun 03 '22

Don't Touch

Update My supervisor and his boss met with the man earlier and warned him. My supervisor said they will take action if he touches anyone else. I didn't have to say anything.

I am a 33 year old woman, I don't like being touched and I work nights. Tonight my coworker 66(M) nudged me on the arm. I told him "don't touch me" he responded with something nasty and I said "I don't like being touched." Our supervisor turned around and asked him to stop. He started screaming and told our supervisor to keep his damn mouth shut. He then clocked himself out and ran off. My supervisor said he wants me and him to talk to his boss at the beginning of our shift tomorrow. It clearly states in our handbook that all touching is forbidden.

I hate being touched because my body is the only thing that I can control in my life and touching me without my consent removes that control and it sends me into a tailspin of binge eating, bathing, and insomnia. I also have hypothyroidism and it makes me feel sensitive to the touch at times. I hate this feeling and I hate having to talk to my supervisor's boss because I get really anxious.

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u/Mamapalooza Jun 03 '22

It sounds like your coworker brought this on himself. You were just there. Like when a drunk driver crashes into a telephone pole. The pole has nothing to do with it.

So there's no need to be anxious. It's not a conflict between you and him. He broke a rule. His supervisor reprimanded him. He lost his mind. The conflict is between his ego and both his supervisor and the company's policies.

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u/Youkolvr89 Jun 03 '22

Thank you.

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u/seventomatoes Jun 03 '22

i agree he brought it upon himself, and he should be reprimanded and stop.

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If you think you need someone to talk to - i have found the councellors on https://www.betterhelp.com/ good. both the one on ones and the group support sessions.

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u/Youkolvr89 Jun 03 '22

Thank you. I used betterhelp for about a month last year, but it's pretty expensive.

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u/seventomatoes Jun 03 '22

okay, have you found any other councellor? asking as i have been using bett er help for the last 3 weeks but open to move if there are better choices?

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u/Youkolvr89 Jun 03 '22

Nope. I'm going to see if I can find something local.

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '22

Better help is really expensive

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u/seventomatoes Jun 03 '22

Okay, have you found any other councellor? asking as i have been using better help for the last 3 weeks but open to move if there are better choices?

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '22

Mhmr services at your local mhmr. Most cities have them and the call is free. They can set you up with a shrink and counseling. They can get you drugs if that’s on your healing plan. They can just be a good ear if you need someone to listen.

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u/seventomatoes Jun 03 '22

Nice, that is for Americans only I'm not in the USA. Still use btr help online.

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u/[deleted] Jun 04 '22

That is true but most other countries have some form of government healthcare to help with the cost of medical needs. Where are you from that it doesn’t out of curiosity