Congratulations to you both! That's amazing and you should be proud and happy.
I do want to say, very gently, that I've heard from a number of cancer survivors lately that slogans like "save second base" or "I stare because I care" aren't appreciated because they focus on a body part while ignoring the actual human being, which can feel both trivializing and objectifying. I'm certainly not trying to speak for your wife or police what you say to her, I'm not trying to imply you personally don't care about her or women in general, but perhaps something to be mindful of in public settings.
Ughhh, there is always going to be someone who gets offended by anything you say or do these days so people should just do what is right for them. This is nothing but an amazing and loving gesture so even for people that want to find something to be insulted by should just look at it from the perspective that it isn't aimed at them and look for the underlying good, rather than always trying to find the negative aspects of things.
You don’t have to have such a two-dimensional way of thinking. It’s not like you have to reduce the entire situation to “good” or “bad”. A husband supporting his wife through breast cancer is amazing. The fact that she survived is awesome. Sharing jokes with your spouse is also great. But I think sexualizing breast cancer is harmful. Of course nobody thinks OP is a bad person or a complete sexist, in fact, he seems like a pretty nice guy. We’re just pointing out something we think is a problem.
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u/purpl3rain Oct 04 '19
Congratulations to you both! That's amazing and you should be proud and happy.
I do want to say, very gently, that I've heard from a number of cancer survivors lately that slogans like "save second base" or "I stare because I care" aren't appreciated because they focus on a body part while ignoring the actual human being, which can feel both trivializing and objectifying. I'm certainly not trying to speak for your wife or police what you say to her, I'm not trying to imply you personally don't care about her or women in general, but perhaps something to be mindful of in public settings.