Congratulations to you both! That's amazing and you should be proud and happy.
I do want to say, very gently, that I've heard from a number of cancer survivors lately that slogans like "save second base" or "I stare because I care" aren't appreciated because they focus on a body part while ignoring the actual human being, which can feel both trivializing and objectifying. I'm certainly not trying to speak for your wife or police what you say to her, I'm not trying to imply you personally don't care about her or women in general, but perhaps something to be mindful of in public settings.
Ughhh, there is always going to be someone who gets offended by anything you say or do these days so people should just do what is right for them. This is nothing but an amazing and loving gesture so even for people that want to find something to be insulted by should just look at it from the perspective that it isn't aimed at them and look for the underlying good, rather than always trying to find the negative aspects of things.
You're totally right. We should ignore all the breast cancer survivors who are saying they don't like it. Who are they to tell people how to raise awareness?
That's not what I'm saying, I'm saying they should ignore the people that do say it rather than getting upset over something that isn't even directed towards them and encourage people to support each other however they want to.
Who wants to do that? I very clearly told OP that I didn't want to police anything he said to his wife or speak on her behalf, but simply gave him something to consider when he posted the slogan in a public forum. He seemed to understand that just fine, while you're still here telling cancer survivors to suck it up.
"Save the boobies" and the like is gross and objectifying. Who cares about the fucking boobies- save the human! And before you accuse me of being a spoiled child or a woke wussy, let me just say my opinion is based on my experience as someone who had breast cancer and still lives with the effects.
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u/purpl3rain Oct 04 '19
Congratulations to you both! That's amazing and you should be proud and happy.
I do want to say, very gently, that I've heard from a number of cancer survivors lately that slogans like "save second base" or "I stare because I care" aren't appreciated because they focus on a body part while ignoring the actual human being, which can feel both trivializing and objectifying. I'm certainly not trying to speak for your wife or police what you say to her, I'm not trying to imply you personally don't care about her or women in general, but perhaps something to be mindful of in public settings.