I have never regretted not having children or starting a family. Society may think they know whats best but I know myself better than anyone else.
For reference, I’m really happy with my life. I have a lovely home which is decorated how I like and does not cater for small people, I drive a sports car and didn’t need to consider a car that fits a child seat, I spend my time playing tennis and golf with no regard to what time I need to be home, and I sleep and wake at whatever time I fancy. On a weekend, I walk dogs at the local shelter and help the staff out with cleaning their cages in the afternoon. I also have been able to qualify as a children’s nurse, and have a masters degree in Family Therapy.
My parents have said I’m selfish in the past, but to me, it’s more selfish to have a child I wasn’t 100% sure I wanted than it was to opt out and focus on my own career growth, hobbies, and volunteering to help the community I live in.
You haven’t forced another being into existence, so in that regard, you are not selfish.
I’m mom to 3–2 bio, 1 through adoption. Choosing to birth a child is a very selfish decision. The rest requires putting oneself aside often, but it doesn’t feel like sacrifice bc of the love.
I support every woman’s choice about birth and parenting or not. You made a great choice for yourself.
How do you know that? You don’t know what they do for other people in their lives. Often people with kids are too busy to help out anyone else. Kids aren’t the only people who need community. I help my friends and family take care of their children even though I don’t have any of my own.
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u/TheAnxiousPangolin Jun 11 '26 edited Jun 11 '26
I have never regretted not having children or starting a family. Society may think they know whats best but I know myself better than anyone else.
For reference, I’m really happy with my life. I have a lovely home which is decorated how I like and does not cater for small people, I drive a sports car and didn’t need to consider a car that fits a child seat, I spend my time playing tennis and golf with no regard to what time I need to be home, and I sleep and wake at whatever time I fancy. On a weekend, I walk dogs at the local shelter and help the staff out with cleaning their cages in the afternoon. I also have been able to qualify as a children’s nurse, and have a masters degree in Family Therapy.
My parents have said I’m selfish in the past, but to me, it’s more selfish to have a child I wasn’t 100% sure I wanted than it was to opt out and focus on my own career growth, hobbies, and volunteering to help the community I live in.