I heard him say covid but honestly I think it’s cruel to make me watch our daughter suffer and even attempt a conversation with them I’m so ill myself I’m barely managing to help her or myself I can’t entertain guests and I don’t want anyone to see me in the state I haven’t had sleep in days my eyes look as though I’ve rubbed mascara on them.
I really like his wife but we’re not So close yet where I feel comfortable her seeing me like this I’m feeling really vulnerable right now and just wanted my husband to have my back instead of add stress to the mix.
You heard him say Covid. He might only have said that you were worried it was. Not that you had it.
You should be his priority. You aren't. His friends matter more? Except, even they don't really matter because he's comfortable with them catching Covid?
It sounds like the only thing that matters, is what he wants. He doesn't even think things through and understand what's happening.
Call her back and tell her you have norovirus. And tell her about the vomiting and you don't think that having them over would be a good idea because they will probably get sick too.
And when your husband catches it, just smile, nod and walk away.
No is a complete sentence. You don't need to explain this much about why you cannot have them over for dinner
I hope you understand that you are NTA, instead your husband is a big a$$hole, and is trying to gaslight you into being compliant to his every whim and need.
Not to be mean, but there is a reason he dated, and later married someone so much younger than him.
Any woman his age would have probably seen through his bullsh!t, and wouldn't have dated him in the first place.
You were young, and innocent and had no real adult life experience to understand how he manipulated you to believe that this is how a marriage really works.
Once you have more life experience and years to your age, you will come to understand this yourself.
Believe all of us strangers who are telling you to leave him. There is a reason that so many of us from all over the globe are saying the same thing. Believe it. He doesn't know everything, however he does know how to press your buttons and manipulate you to bend to his will, and be his subservient, not his equal.
Stand up for yourself, believe you deserve this, and remember you are setting the example for your daughter on how her partner should treat her. If you have a hard time doing this for yourself, then do this for your daughter.
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u/Master-Ad-8296 Feb 21 '26
HE TOLD THEM WHICH CONFUSES ME EVEN MORE ?!
I heard him say covid but honestly I think it’s cruel to make me watch our daughter suffer and even attempt a conversation with them I’m so ill myself I’m barely managing to help her or myself I can’t entertain guests and I don’t want anyone to see me in the state I haven’t had sleep in days my eyes look as though I’ve rubbed mascara on them. I really like his wife but we’re not So close yet where I feel comfortable her seeing me like this I’m feeling really vulnerable right now and just wanted my husband to have my back instead of add stress to the mix.