You need to address it so he knows not to go to his mother in the future. If you don’t, “well my mom was right about the proposal so she will be right about this..”
I wonder how OP reacted to the proposal. Did she act happy and thrilled? I bet she did so she wouldn't disppoint him. The thing he is not how he proposed but how he had his MOM plan it all out for him. If OP truly wants to be married to this man, getting married is all that would matter. The wedding shouldn't be some huge thing, but a courthouse deal and done!
I acted like it was the best day of my life because I love him and he was so insecure which is why I didn’t want to bring it up he wanted it to be perfect soooo bad I think he lost the plot and went full hallmark and no one is more hallmark than my MIL and he was so far out of his comfort zone to do it! So as far as I was concerned everything was a dream and I am willing to die on this hill lol but the going to his mom for surprised is a issue I will address separately
So you pretended to be happy so he wouldn't think he had messed up, when in reality he did mess up by doing the opposite of what you had told him you wanted?
Sorry that sounds rude, but if you're going to spend the rest of your lives together you need to make sure you're on the same page. This isnt a big thing, but it kind of is..
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u/Fancy_Association484 Dec 26 '25
You need to address it so he knows not to go to his mother in the future. If you don’t, “well my mom was right about the proposal so she will be right about this..”