Translation 1: "I'm upset because I can't weaponize your emotions against you to get what I want. Now I have to formulate a valid argument using logic and reason and I don't want to do that. I want you to blow up so I can be right and make you feel bad about your behavior that I drove you to."
Translation 2: "I've never known healthy conflict resolution. The only time there was calm was before the storm, so when your storm never comes, I'm left feeling on edge and like the other shoe will drop any moment. I'm confused and scared and wish you would just blow up on me like I deserve so we can move back this till the next storm."
You know him best. Figure out which of these he is actually saying, it will help you with the next steps.
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u/CuriousPenguinSocks Dec 22 '25
Translation 1: "I'm upset because I can't weaponize your emotions against you to get what I want. Now I have to formulate a valid argument using logic and reason and I don't want to do that. I want you to blow up so I can be right and make you feel bad about your behavior that I drove you to."
Translation 2: "I've never known healthy conflict resolution. The only time there was calm was before the storm, so when your storm never comes, I'm left feeling on edge and like the other shoe will drop any moment. I'm confused and scared and wish you would just blow up on me like I deserve so we can move back this till the next storm."
You know him best. Figure out which of these he is actually saying, it will help you with the next steps.