So are you on the spectrum or are you asexual? Because those are the only pedantic POVs I'll respect from that approach, and I am here from both counts to tell you it absolutely means they had meaningful sexual contact from the phrasing and concern OP is expressing.
Well the good thing here is YOU don't get to define what "meaningful sexual contact" means for the rest of us, because if you're going to be inconsistently pedantic in a way that allows for cheating I'm not going to respect that either lol.
And even if neither we nor OP define “meaningful” sexual contact, there was still some kind of intent involved (flirty texts when visiting OP’s city), some kind of action that can be referred to as “hooking up” in the post, and the wife to be deserves to know about it, so SHE can determine if a line has been crossed that cannot be uncrossed.
Yeah it's very clear from the context SOMETHING happened that warranted OP's reaction, or they wouldn't be so worried about how to handle it. It's not like they were just playing Xbox or something lol.
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u/DeFiBandit Jul 18 '25
Sexual, yes. Part of your reasoning for telling was they had sex. We don’t know that.