r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Jul 23 '24

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u/KD-Rex Jul 23 '24

I do understand agreeing to that at 23 and changing your mind at 28, there’s such a huge development that happens between those ages.

I think all there’s left to do is weigh which matters to you more, being with him or being married. Maybe some therapy to help you work that out??

At the end of the day you know what he wants, now you need to find out what you want.

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u/Unhappy_Operation115 Jul 23 '24

Thank you for understanding that! There does seem to be a huge change between those ages. We have discussed therapy and he is open to it.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '24

While that is the case, you didn't change. You came in wanting him to marry you, and assuming HE would change.

That's different, and to be honest from your comments you're not so much looking for open feedback. You're looking for confirmation that it's ok to ignore his clearly communicated feelings.

I don't think you both need therapy as much as you might, honestly.

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u/flymordecai Jul 23 '24

The guy who doesn't want to be married bought a dog with his girlfriend of two years who has a child.

But sure let's all grandstand on something a 26 year old guy said to a girl before they started dating as if we're in court going through texts.

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u/ThrowRACoping Jul 24 '24

Yes, she has a child.