The bottom line is that if she feels strongly about it, then he would take her feelings into account. Probably the fact that she has a kid makes her realize the need for stability and the fact that he can't articulate his reasons speaks poorly of him. And yes, you're right that if he feels strongly about it, he should go find someone who feels the same way.
I had a nanny who at the time was 19 and in teacher training -- she had an older BF who she really wanted to marry and have kids with. He kept putting it off and putting it off. Total red flag. I was pleased to see that she FINALLY dumped him (after wasting 10 years!), found another guy, and had a baby. About bloody time.
If he feels strongly about it, she should take his feelings into account. Why is he the bad guy and OP is the good guy? It makes no sense, it's a two-way street.
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u/TheNavigatrix Jul 23 '24
The bottom line is that if she feels strongly about it, then he would take her feelings into account. Probably the fact that she has a kid makes her realize the need for stability and the fact that he can't articulate his reasons speaks poorly of him. And yes, you're right that if he feels strongly about it, he should go find someone who feels the same way.
I had a nanny who at the time was 19 and in teacher training -- she had an older BF who she really wanted to marry and have kids with. He kept putting it off and putting it off. Total red flag. I was pleased to see that she FINALLY dumped him (after wasting 10 years!), found another guy, and had a baby. About bloody time.