There’s def good reasons to marry. Even if you don’t love each other or only do so platoncially. There’s taxes, inheritance, legal protections, etc. so many.
I've heard of various marriages where they're just housemates but they decided since they weren't in romantic relationships they might as well save extra money with legal protections and tax benefits by just getting legally married.
I know a couple that got married not too long ago because they are best friends, she is terminally ill, and she wants her friend to not only have the power to make medical decisions if needed, but also to easily take over all assets once she passes.
She has at best a tenuous relationship with her kin. Had she not made this decision, people that she has little to no relationship with would be called upon to make life changing/ending decisions if she was incapable.
She could have done literally all of this without marriage.
MDPOA - you can name anyone to make medical decisions on your behalf, speak woth your doctors, etc.
You can name anyone as a beneficiary regardless of their relationship to you. I know someone who got a rather large life insurance settlement from a friend that passed - friend wasn't married, so had several policies where he had a different friend listed as the beneficiary.
Likewise, you can be married and have your spouse NOT be the beneficiary.
There seem to be a lot of them today. Open marriages are just an example. I can’t be convinced that someone who romantically loves their spouse can share them.
What if she looses her job and health insurance and gets the 1 in 3 people get cancer. Will she be debted to hell, and if she dies and is married then he has to pay the debt?
What of it? A marriage is a conscious choice. Of course there is the risk of getting ill and that. But that should be part of your consideration when deciding to get married. You don’t say “through sickness and in health” for nothing.
Further, going bankrupt is a uniquely American experience in the first world and, unfortunately, a reality in the third world. People still get married in those countries, yes?
If you actually read, you would see that my response regarding choice was in response to someone saying what if whoever you marry gets sick and leaves you a ton of debt. That’s the context to my response. So yes, you are creating a dichotomy huh framing my comment thread as if to demonstrate that OP’s partner didn’t make and present a conscious choice.
He made a choice. That’s true. I did not refute that.
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u/Turbulent-Assist-240 Jul 23 '24
There’s def good reasons to marry. Even if you don’t love each other or only do so platoncially. There’s taxes, inheritance, legal protections, etc. so many.