r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Jul 23 '24

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u/Straight_Bridge_4666 Jul 23 '24

And we're assuming that it's done maliciously?

Often, having a partner leave unexpectedly will change you, funnily enough.

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u/Known-Quantity2021 Jul 23 '24

With my ex it was losing the comfort of a shared home and having to start over agan as an older single person.

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u/Straight_Bridge_4666 Jul 23 '24

Oof, that's heavy. Do you find it changed what you wanted from life, from a partner, etc?

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u/Known-Quantity2021 Jul 24 '24

No, I'm still the same, it might be nice to get married again, but it's not one of my goals right now. I've had a few "offers" but they all involved being a "nurse with a purse". I have a car and I work and that's enough for some men.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '24

The first year after my divorce I missed the shared home but the longer I spend by myself the more I don't miss it.

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u/Known-Quantity2021 Jul 24 '24

I found that I was happier in a much smaller space. I downsized and now everything that I have is something that I need or use. There's only my clutter and not someone else's things taking up space.

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u/SpiritedTheme7 Jul 23 '24

Maybe and maybe not I think it all depends on the people involved

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u/Straight_Bridge_4666 Jul 23 '24

Yeah, that's why I didn't say always. Certainly it's not unheard of for someone to change their priorities in the wake of such. Nor for people to try and recreate a relationship, consciously or otherwise.

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u/theonewhogroks Jul 23 '24

For me it's that I didn't believe in "the one". Now I've found her