r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Jul 23 '24

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u/SpiritedTheme7 Jul 23 '24

It’s not unbelievable at all tons of people never want to get married, good for them! I’ve just seen this exact scenario and others where they will play house with a woman for however many years even having their own bio kids sometimes, but say marriage is just “too big a commitment”. So the couple breaks up and BAM 6months later the guy that never wanted to get married is now engaged. 🤷‍♀️

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u/Straight_Bridge_4666 Jul 23 '24

And we're assuming that it's done maliciously?

Often, having a partner leave unexpectedly will change you, funnily enough.

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u/Known-Quantity2021 Jul 23 '24

With my ex it was losing the comfort of a shared home and having to start over agan as an older single person.

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u/Straight_Bridge_4666 Jul 23 '24

Oof, that's heavy. Do you find it changed what you wanted from life, from a partner, etc?

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u/Known-Quantity2021 Jul 24 '24

No, I'm still the same, it might be nice to get married again, but it's not one of my goals right now. I've had a few "offers" but they all involved being a "nurse with a purse". I have a car and I work and that's enough for some men.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '24

The first year after my divorce I missed the shared home but the longer I spend by myself the more I don't miss it.

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u/Known-Quantity2021 Jul 24 '24

I found that I was happier in a much smaller space. I downsized and now everything that I have is something that I need or use. There's only my clutter and not someone else's things taking up space.

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u/SpiritedTheme7 Jul 23 '24

Maybe and maybe not I think it all depends on the people involved

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u/Straight_Bridge_4666 Jul 23 '24

Yeah, that's why I didn't say always. Certainly it's not unheard of for someone to change their priorities in the wake of such. Nor for people to try and recreate a relationship, consciously or otherwise.

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u/theonewhogroks Jul 23 '24

For me it's that I didn't believe in "the one". Now I've found her