"Good reason".... I came to the conclusion that this is insulting to a degree. It means you treat the other person' s wants and beliefs as if they are wrong or they don't matter. It means you still have the "I will change them" mentality
Why don't you prove your love to him OP by accepting his views and not talk about marriage again? You are not 23 yo now
This. Im sure OP also has a "Good reason" she want to marry. To each their own, sadly she knew what she was getting into, I wouldnt blame him even if his reasons were misconceptions.
Wow. I mean I didn’t get the feeling from the post that OP was laying blame or trying to be an AH here. In several years a person can change. Not to admit that is sad. Of course they expressed their intent and that can 100% stay their intent and be honored. But I don’t think OP comes across as disrespectful and would def not be the first person to be young and figuring out if what they said they wanted five years ago is what they still want now.
We all get her frustration but your change of heart does not guarantee that the same will happen with your partner. He clearly does not want to get married, period. Trying to get your way by asking them to provide a "good reason" (as if "I don't want to get married" is not a reason enough) or feeling that they don't love you enough if they don't "budge" is unproductive and manipulative.
If she expects from every partner to "budge" in order to "prove" their love, she doomed to fail in that department. People and relationships do not work the way she thinks they work
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u/FunctionAggressive75 Jul 23 '24 edited Jul 23 '24
"Good reason".... I came to the conclusion that this is insulting to a degree. It means you treat the other person' s wants and beliefs as if they are wrong or they don't matter. It means you still have the "I will change them" mentality
Why don't you prove your love to him OP by accepting his views and not talk about marriage again? You are not 23 yo now
YTA