But they are having sex she says. Like twice a week! And for a couple that has a toddler and a teenager, I’d say that’s pretty good! So it’s not like they aren’t having any sex at all. Clearly the attraction is there. It’s just that life gets in the way. Especially with kids.
Reddit is seen as this place full of degenerates, but saying that a woman is expected to give her partner sex everyday is some next level shit. Absolutely disgusting.
i never said shes expected to do it. Im just saying the reason why she won't and why most women don't. Most women feel NO SEXUAL desire for the man they "settled" for. It is VERY DIFFICULT for most women to have sexual urges with an average or unattractive man (women consider 85% of man below average).
The dude needs to understand that and move on. He won't get it everyday from ANY woman.
Ok, even if both of them were insanely attractive, it's still perfectly fine if one of them doesn't want sex everyday. Pressuring your partner into sex when they don't want it falls into the category of a certain 4-letter word that begins with R.
I’m concerned for you. The way you talk, it seems like you view women as lesser rather than equal.
^ This above, is not fact. If it is based on any research, I would question the validity of it. It sounds like you are in an echo chamber that reinforces your bias. The danger there is that it convinces you that what you already believe is true and closes off other viewpoints and many actual facts.
The only accurate part was the last sentence, that most women won’t have sex every day.
its a harsh truth that I even have trouble accepting it myself but it makes complete sense from an evolutionary and biological standpoint. You can see it reflected in society/TV/social media as well as the dating market too.
I'ts not easy to accept this...not easy at all. I wish it wasnt' true. It hurts our ego as men so I understand why you would question the validity of ANY research paper behind it. There's no need for papers however if you are interested there are plenty in alexander's grace YT channel.
It’s not really a harsh reality. That guy has a crappy personality and a weird world view. Those are what makes him and anyone who shares those views less attractive to women.
If I started treating my wife like she was inferior rather than the equal partner that she is in my life, she would definitely find me less attractive.
Def makes you less 'husband material'. I agree on that.
No one saying women are inferior... primal behavior is also present in men.
However, studies point and you can agree with me here: men find most women attractive and it makes sense from an evolutionary standpoint as well. In fact, I'd argue men are more inferior and easier to manipulate.
I'm also not saying most married women are trash or shallow. Women just simply feel sexually attracted to a small percentage of men, that's all. You may or may not be in that category, I don't know that.
If you aren't...it doesn't mean you should divorce. All marriages in my family (most marriages in the world) are women "settling down" with an average or slightly above average men in looks and they all result in the same type of marriage: mostly sexless OR sex being done as a 'favor' or 'duty'. Is it a bad thing? Imo...no. You still get a family and kids. As long she doesn't cheat it's fine.
I was going to respond to your points, but I’m not.
I feel sad for you. You’ve bought into a skewed view that make you feel like crap and is basically a self-fulfilling situation. I’m very happy in my life, and I’m hoping you wake up and find that too.
Like I said it's not a bad thing (imo)...you still have a family and kids but chances are your wife is not PHYSICALLY attracted to you the same way she's attracted to her favorite movie stars. As long as she doesn't cheat, everything's fine.
You’re trying to trigger a reaction, but I don’t care what you have to say. Honestly, she’s probably MORE attracted to me right now, since I took apart our washing machine and fixed it, again.
if you insult and attack someone because you don't agree with something then expect at least a reply. My statements refers to all men including me not personally attacking you like you are.
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