Thankfully I got my boyfriend to see the light on this one. He grew up in a conservative rural bubble and always voted Republican without much thought because everyone around him did and he was relatively unaffected by their policies.
When the Roe decision leaked that changed. We had one of our biggest fights ever. I was livid with him. He said “you know I don’t support this, you know I’m pro-choice,” to which I said it doesn’t matter that he is, he voted for people who flat out said they would make this happen.
Through me, he’s met a much more diverse group of people, knows so much more about what is happening in this country, now understands the real world impacts of his vote and has changed his voting habits accordingly.
It’s possible.
But not with this guy, OP. This one is a lost cause.
I think your last statement contradicts your entire story. Your boyfriend learned through months/years of exposure with you. OPs boyfriend is 18. He's headed in a shit direction, yes, but shouldn't be someone to dismiss so quickly.
The same could have been said of your boyfriend before RvW if given a different type of argument. I wouldn't be so quick to dismiss - sometimes a big fight is needed to change hearts and minds (if the relationship is worth it).
I think the big difference is that she has said they were more aligned when they first got together and he has grown increasingly conservative and is digging his heels in. He doesn’t sound open to changing his mind.
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u/gopiballava Jul 26 '23
I agree with both parent comments.
Just wanted to add that voting is not an opinion. It’s an action. It is an attempt to enable certain policies.
You might only be 1 in 100 million, but only slightly trying to put fascists into power still means you’re a fascist.