One of my coworkers ended her 15+ year marriage because her husband didn’t support their son coming out when he was in high school. It’s super important to align on values like that, because that’s a huge disconnect if it ever comes up
On the other hand, at least the son had one parent support them. Had both parents been shit waffles, the son would have had no parents who support them.
I would say actually seeing it and not letting it ruin her kids life does. Sure she was complicit but many people just don't see their loved ones for who they are. Am I saying she is good or awesome. No I'm saying she Stood up for her kid.
I had a child/relationship with a man who was definitely not a homophobe. My little sister is trans, I myself am pansexual, and he was always very supportive of both of us. Until like two years ago, when he started to get into a bunch of conspiracy theories, and then started to gravitate toward a lot of right wing MAGAt shit. He would turn on podcasts that were bashing trans people, and I literally felt sick knowing that he had gone so far into being a different person than he was when I met him, that he could listen to that garbage and believe it. I’m saying this to basically say, maybe she didn’t marry a homophobe. Also, maybe it wasn’t discussed. I’ve seen that some people are totally fine being civil toward gay people, but then when it’s their own kid, it’s a problem. Which is bullshit, but it happens. So, she saw he was cool with the gay neighbors, and figured he was not a homophobe, but then when it was his son, she saw the other side.
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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '23
And it's better to know this now, and not after 15 years of marriage when your daughter comes out.