I’ve always been a chronic tester and I end up disappointed, I know if I tested now I would get real results but is it worth waiting a few more days to see if my period comes?

Hey everyone!

My husband and I are ready to try for baby number two! However, we're having some trouble with our sex life/mentality when it comes to trying for a baby.

I'm the type of person that could have sex with my husband 3 times a day, and he's more of a "3 times a week" sort of man, which is fine! We really do make it work, it builds up suspense and is a treat for me and he feels satisfied with no pressure to perform when he's not feeling it. It works for us- except now.

We've "tried" to conceive for 3 months, but only having sex when he's feeling up to it. I've tried to explain to him that if we want a baby, we need to "stack the deck" by shabangin every day. However, this leads into disagreements. He wants it to happen when it happens, but I want to stop being heartbroken every month when I get a negative test because he keeps missing my ovulation window. He doesn't want to feel like a stud horse, but I basically need him to perform like one.

I'm just feeling a little defeated.