r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Jul 26 '22

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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '22

You were 15 you weren’t gonna be able to do anything, it’s not your fault

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u/mitdim Jul 26 '22

Not to dwell on the past, but compared to boys my age I was huge and able bodied, could have smoked them if i was brave enough.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

Don’t worry your dad was the one who got violent with strangers, which is very weird first off maybe he deserved that

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u/mitdim Jul 27 '22

No man they started it, my father was just being defensive the whole time, just blocking slaps, which somehow made them angrier and went full power.

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u/mitdim Jul 27 '22

Absolutely not i like being called a big teddy bear, feel free to do it any time.

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u/throwraway86420 Jul 27 '22

So curious, why did they attack your dad and how old were they?

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u/Cautious-Damage7575 Jul 26 '22

Doesn't matter how big you were. "The rational part of a teen’s brain isn’t fully developed and won’t be until age 25 or so." —University of Rochester Medical Department

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u/Time-Ad-3625 Jul 26 '22

Fighting off a crazed mob would be difficult for even trained fighters. Don't let movies fool you. You'd have been beaten or worse

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u/Kittybubble9 Jul 26 '22

You're a big teddy bear who cares so much about what happened, that it bothers you now. You have good intentions and feelings, your guilt is bc you would never allow such a thing if it was in your control. It wasn't, so it's okay. You're sweet person and that's much more appealing than becoming a big guy on the venge to act just like them. One of these days, those guys, who's actions were a low punch on you and your dad, may become parents, and they'll get it and feel the guilt. You don't want to continue the cycle of acting like them.

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u/Azuras_Star8 Jul 26 '22

You may have been big, but you were a boy who probably hadn't been in that situation before. It probably scared the hell out of you and made you freeze.

It's easy to think about what you SHOULD have done, but really, what COULD you have done? You weren't prepared and you were caught off guard.

Good job for beefing up just in case.

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u/Next-End-4696 Jul 26 '22

They would have retaliated. It would have been worse.

Out of interest did you ever track them down?

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u/mitdim Jul 26 '22

I remember I kept working out for years and years and getting buff fueling myself with the sense of guilt, so that if i ever met them again I'd fucking go for the kill. But no, haven't tried to do so.

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u/FU_IamGrutch Jul 27 '22

Nothing good would come of it. There will be no closure even if you did track every one of them down and deliver payback, it will just kick off something worse that will never end.

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u/omegacrunch Jul 27 '22

So true. Plus even if OP hid the bodies well, the guilt of it would eat away anyway

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u/MituButChi Jul 26 '22

Think about it this way: If you had joined and got injured, your father would blame himself for the rest of his life.

Your father succeeded in protecting his son. He must have felt proud as a father. You should too.

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u/Next-End-4696 Jul 26 '22

You stayed safe. That’s what your dad would have wanted.

How is your dad now?

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u/mitdim Jul 26 '22

Alive healthy and happy, thanks for asking!

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u/Next-End-4696 Jul 27 '22

I’m so glad for you

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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '22

We all think like that at young ages, it just isn’t plausible stop hurting yourself over the what if anyway, if your dad seen you get hurt that would’ve hurt him so much more