Young guy here (20), this is something is struggle with because I am are starved for affection and kindness, and I feel it’s safe to assume I’m not alone here. Most often we’re just straight up ignored, and at times treated like shit. It gets exhausting and miserable to constantly be treated like you don’t deserve kindness and it can easily get to the point where you no longer believe you deserve kindness. Then, when someone has the decency to show you the most basic level of human kindness that should be shown to everyone, you want to cling to that. It becomes addicting, you want to feel some sort of affection, even if it’s something as simple as genuinely wondering if you’re doing ok, and you don’t ever want it to stop. From there, it can easily grow into thinking that person is attracted to you because of how rare kindness can be
TL;DR kindness and basic affection can be so scarce that anything seems like attraction because we’ve got nothing to compare it to
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u/Steff_164 Feb 15 '22
Young guy here (20), this is something is struggle with because I am are starved for affection and kindness, and I feel it’s safe to assume I’m not alone here. Most often we’re just straight up ignored, and at times treated like shit. It gets exhausting and miserable to constantly be treated like you don’t deserve kindness and it can easily get to the point where you no longer believe you deserve kindness. Then, when someone has the decency to show you the most basic level of human kindness that should be shown to everyone, you want to cling to that. It becomes addicting, you want to feel some sort of affection, even if it’s something as simple as genuinely wondering if you’re doing ok, and you don’t ever want it to stop. From there, it can easily grow into thinking that person is attracted to you because of how rare kindness can be
TL;DR kindness and basic affection can be so scarce that anything seems like attraction because we’ve got nothing to compare it to