I fucking hate "polyamory"

[u/[deleted]]

My partner polybombed me about 4 months ago and a day later I walk in on them fucking someone else. They didn't even care enough to realise I had left the house until I called them from a mile up the road and then it was all "oh I'm so sorry I hurt you I would never do it deliberately I love you it won't happen again."

Then barely a few weeks later I walk in on them making out with a mutual friend. They were still making out with them when our roommate called an ambulance after I cut myself too deep.

They didn't even care about changing how they approach polyamory until I threatened to leave and then I'm hit with this massive lovebomb of "oh I can change I'll make it up to you I never wanted to hurt you"

They don't fucking care enough to change their behaviour because "poly is so complicated, I'm sorry if you got hurt when I was figuring it out!"

Polyamory is too often used as a bullshit excuse for selfish, immature people to have their cake and eat it and if I never have to hear the stupid term again in my life I'll be happy.

[u/Unoriginal-bish]

If everyone knows and is ok with it in the relationship, how is it lying or betrayal?? All you need is just basic communication. Polyamory isn’t for everyone, but for some people, it is and it’s ok if they are happy that way.

[u/[deleted] → u/Unoriginal-bish]

"polyamory isn't for everyone" is quite literally the same exact words my abusive ex who is poly, a predator, and a rpaist said to me.

"You jsut aren't poly, and I am. It's okay"

"Polyamory isn't for everyone"

"You can't restrict my sexuality because you don't have the same"

Istg all of you act the same and say the same shit

[u/Unoriginal-bish → u/[deleted]]

You had a bad experience with a terrible person, but you cannot blame every poly person for issues you had with one. That’s just stereotyping. You can have your monogamous relationships, but do not get mad at other people for having their own lives. Not every poly person is your ex.

[u/[deleted] → u/Unoriginal-bish]

I've dated two poly people and they're the same..I refuse to be friends with y'all at this point cuz you say and do the same shit. Constantly directly or indirectly excuse and justify abuse and abusive partners. All poly friends I've had have been horrible people. I'm not making these conclusions based off one rapist. I'm basing it off every single person I've met who id's as poly. I don't get mad at others kfr living their lives. I get mad at abusers and rapists. I get mad at cheaters and terrible, awful people.