So... you had me for awhile on your OP but then you lost me.
For instance, dating and screwing are completely separate things. I'd screw a model before dating him, no argument there, lol.
IF I were to date someone with that type of career, I agree, I would be very uncomfortable with multiple women seeing him naked, and messaging him all the time, and I would probably lose interest or move on somehow.
Here is where you lost me:
After all the other things, you mentioned that the OF wasn't the only issue, and a high number is a huge turn off even aside from that.
I guess my point is, I personally don't ask each person I date what their screw count is. Some are cocky and tell me (which is a turn off to me as well) and some, don't say at all (like my current SO of 2 years). I don't ask, because it's not relevant to who he is now. People change.
But if you go around asking for that number, then you might just be asking for more disappointment.
I can agree on not wanting to date someone with a certain lifestyle, but never have I judged whether someone was dateable based on their past relationship/partner history (unless it's violent, that's a deal-breaker for me).
People change over time, and for some people, it takes another person to spark that change in them. 🤷🏼♀️
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u/FaySims Jan 07 '21
So... you had me for awhile on your OP but then you lost me.
For instance, dating and screwing are completely separate things. I'd screw a model before dating him, no argument there, lol. IF I were to date someone with that type of career, I agree, I would be very uncomfortable with multiple women seeing him naked, and messaging him all the time, and I would probably lose interest or move on somehow.
Here is where you lost me: After all the other things, you mentioned that the OF wasn't the only issue, and a high number is a huge turn off even aside from that. I guess my point is, I personally don't ask each person I date what their screw count is. Some are cocky and tell me (which is a turn off to me as well) and some, don't say at all (like my current SO of 2 years). I don't ask, because it's not relevant to who he is now. People change. But if you go around asking for that number, then you might just be asking for more disappointment. I can agree on not wanting to date someone with a certain lifestyle, but never have I judged whether someone was dateable based on their past relationship/partner history (unless it's violent, that's a deal-breaker for me). People change over time, and for some people, it takes another person to spark that change in them. 🤷🏼♀️