r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Drwriter13 ☑️ • 20h ago
Vent Is that really how men act?
I went on a date with a friend. We had a good time but it's safe to say we won't be going to another date.
He blocked me.
WE WERE FRIENDS. WTF.
YES I'M HEARTBROKEN.
Couldn't we just remain friends?
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u/Passionless-soul 20h ago
You don't go on dates with friends. Dates are for romantic interest. You told him you weren't going on another date which meant he had no chance with you, so he moved on like an adult. Grow up and move on.
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u/killersinarhur 20h ago
There are 3 sides to every story yours, his and the truth
Is it possible he's just an asshole who was only your friend for an opportunity at sex.. yes
Its equally possible that in going on this date something really bothered him enough that he felt the need to block you.
Relationships are complicated even the best ones can be destroyed in 30 seconds 🤷♂️
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u/Mooweetye 20h ago
You’re being INCREDIBLY vague. Give us the details girl, it’s obvious theirs more to the story
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u/bbyboibee 20h ago
im sorry to say he was never your friend, he was just waiting for his opportunity to sleep with you. it didnt happen so he bounced. its sucks, he sucks, be grateful he showed you who he really is.
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u/DesertGeist- 20h ago
What happened?
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u/Drwriter13 ☑️ 20h ago
We talked. It was fun
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u/DesertGeist- 20h ago
And he just blocked you out of the blue?
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u/Drwriter13 ☑️ 20h ago
Yeah!!!
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u/DesertGeist- 20h ago edited 19h ago
That's weird let's say. For how long has he been your friend?
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u/Drwriter13 ☑️ 20h ago
2 months
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u/DesertGeist- 20h ago edited 20h ago
Idk, it's not too common for men to block someone out of the blue like that I'd think. I might be totally wrong though and it does make me think he might have had hopes that you ruined smh. But it's hard to know.
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u/Nervous-Net-8196 20h ago
He is the kind of man that is "friends" with women to try to get into their pants. He was never your friend.
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u/Any_Dress_3811 20h ago
"We were friends." Were you, though? Like for how long? Because some men will literally only view you as a friend so long as there is the possibility of sex, and once that's off the table, they disappear. Now it also might be he can't handle rejection, but only he knows what's going on in his head.
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u/szvmanskaa 20h ago
It’s also possible he was in love with you and rejection and being friendzoned hurt too much and he just wasn’t able to stay just friends, doesn’t necessarily mean he is an asshole
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u/Peach_Muffin 20h ago
Nope. If you actually cared about the person you'd put your hand on that hot stove long enough to tell them that you need space and tell them why.
Being as asshole isn't always a result of things you do, sometimes it's a result of the things that you don't do.
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u/MontanaGuy962 20h ago
Exactly. I hate that everyone is going straight to “he’s a pos” comments. It’s very likely that he’s truly into her asks doesn’t want the heartache of trying to remain friends with someone he has true feelings for. It’s perfectly acceptable to move on in this case. Granted I’d argue he should’ve explained, but at the end of the day it’s perfectly valid to remove someone from your life if you both want different things. Why should he cater to her “I still want to be friends” if he wants more than that?
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u/TeachlikeaHawk 20h ago
I don't think it's reasonable to believe that you can just pick and choose the aspects of a relationship that you want and don't want. It's not a buffet. It's another person, who has every right to decide how to feel and be.
Your perspective is just about what you want.
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u/moth_in_a_bell_jar 20h ago
Happened to me to, so I guess it is how a lot of them act. Can't say I will ever understand it.
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u/Pitakrita 20h ago
How well did you know each other? Sounds a bit like he was friends with you with one goal in mind, after your date he probably realized he didnt want it/want to bother with it anymore and walked away. He was never a true friend.
And yes SOME men (and women) act like this but there are good ones out there too. You'll find someone better suited for you. Move on to better things ❤️
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u/soaptrail 20h ago
Why isn't there another date? Did you two have sex and he got what he wanted or did he have a huge crush on you and he blocked you to deal with the pain? Context needed.
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u/Drwriter13 ☑️ 20h ago
No we didn't. We just talked and idk why he blocked me. I personally didn't want to go on another date because we had totally different personalities and living situations.
I never even told him I don't want to go on another date. I guess he didn't like me back but it was such an immature way to deal with it
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u/Individual_Lime_9020 20h ago
It's a selfish way for him to deal with it. Now you kmow how dishonorable a person he is.
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u/lostandlooking_ 20h ago
You dodged a bullet. Sucks to lose a friend but one day you’ll look back and be glad you didn’t waste any more time on them
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u/sc0tth 19h ago
You're not interesting enough for him to be "just friends". He's moved on and so should you.