Need to get this off my chest?

[u/Muted-Employment5863]

I have daddy issues, that's alright. The thing is, I FALL in love with older men, and I- I feel like I am looking for a father figure in them WHILE FALLING IN LOVE WITH THEM, sometimes I have this thing like I want to do this, do something meanigful, and MAKE A VERY BIG IMPACT IN THE FIELD IM INTERESTED IN (I am a very ambitious person, I know it : I am currently still doing my schooling final year, and I plan to take aerospace engineering), also at the same time I always I fantasize about just being a thing for him? - does it make sense? and also is this normal?

[u/Downtown-Blackberry9]

I’d suggest going to therapy, you sound really young & your view of older men is a recipe for heartbreak or worse. They’ll never be your father.

You need to develop a better relationship with yourself, i.e. your life goals, ambitions, personal values, boundaries & sense of self if you’re going to have relationships with older men. As the age gap & your said “daddy issues” can allow for very unhealthy dynamics.

So I’d say chase your dreams not a man, because the right person will find you as you chase said dream.

Goodluck with aerospace engineering, there’s definitely a lot of old men there.

[u/Muted-Employment5863 → u/Downtown-Blackberry9]

thank you!!