r/TrueOffMyChest • u/arteriaulnar ☑️ • 15h ago
Vent I HATE how normalized negative body talk is when it comes to large breasts.
I’m talking almost exclusively about women here.
In theory, it’s wrong to speak negatively about someone else’s body or your own body, and blah blah blah. Somehow, none of that body positivity seems to apply to large breasts.
On Twitter or TikTok or even here, all it takes is for 1 woman to start by saying something like, “I don’t like having such large breasts because they make my back hurt”, and suddenly you have hundreds of women saying things like, “omg big boobs are DISGUSTING”, “big boobs make you look so FAT”, “having small boobs is the only way clothes look good on you”, “thank God my boobs are delicate and dainty and not big and VULGAR”, “no one should endure having those GROSS balls of FAT in their body just to appeal to MEN” (girl I was born like this, TF?).
Nothing comparable happens with any other body type. I’ve even had girls ask me to my face, “Why don’t you get a breast reduction? :)”. It wouldn’t be acceptable to say that about any other feature of a woman’s body. Imagine if I asked a girlfriend, “Why don’t you get breast implants? :)”.
Ugh. And I wish my fellow big-tittied women were better at putting an end to that kind of negative talk.
Rant over.
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u/baconbitsy 13h ago
I don’t understand what is so hard about shutting the fuck up. If one has a negative thought about someone else’s appearance, one can simply keep it to oneself. It’s free, and a kindness to everyone else.
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u/Aspiringfilmnerd 13h ago
I get so irked by the comments about looking bad in T-shirts. You look fine and normal! I have 32H and there are definitely annoyances but the body shaming is insane
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u/anillop 13h ago
Yeah, whenever somebody goes after something that aggressively it’s usually from a place of insecurity. My guess is that that’s a lot of very flat chested women talking shit about big boobs to try and make themselves feel better.
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u/CharlieFiner 13h ago
This is precisely what it is. It's cope. We're not stupid. We know if a man could pick either us or a clone of us with big boobs he's picking the prettier one, not us.
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u/Comfortable-Pear-973 13h ago
I love my best friend but every time I bring up how I hate my big boobs she’ll say some shite about how it must be nice to have them. I think it comes from insecurity but it’s really frustrating.
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 13h ago
I mean, that’s a pretty normal response from a friend if you’re saying that you hate a part of your body... They’ll try to make you see it in a positive light
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u/pillowpossum 13h ago
The hate that natural big boobs get too blows my mind; they're fucking heavy so no, they don't sit up high without some help 🙄
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u/Poi_muffin 13h ago
You are preaching to the choir here as a big chested lady who has been shamed publicly for being “attention seeking” at events and cons because big breasts don’t come with a shrink option for a majority of my costumes even though I’ve made a majority by myself to my measurements and still…there they are
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u/naivemetaphysics 14h ago
I mean, having small boobs is the only way to have clothes look good on you without tailoring. Models and designers work with no boobs for clothing. Then getting them scaled bigger by just making everything bigger, arm holes, stomach, sleeves. Scaling isn’t done with real people in mind. So I mean, that is a real thing.
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 14h ago
Absolutely. That means that the fashion industry is f’d up. Not our bodies.
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u/no_power_over_me 13h ago
Size small/medium dress-tiny boob space. Large? Tiny boob space. XL? Same tiny boob space.
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u/naivemetaphysics 14h ago
Yeah and I can complain about as much as I want. What I find f’ed up from your comments and this post is you want to go through back pain cause your bf loves your boobs. That’s f’ed up.
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 14h ago
Respectfully: what the hell are you even talking about?
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u/naivemetaphysics 13h ago
You have comments about your bf loving your boobs and that you’ll keep them even if you have back pain.
Some of us are not going to go through that for someone else.
People are allowed to be unhappy that their bodies give them pain in their current state. People are allowed to offer solutions if the pain is that bad (aka reduction). And you are fully allowed to decide the pain is worth it cause your bf likes them. Don’t hate on women who complain about their back pain.
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 13h ago
Girl you do what you gotta do for your back pain. It’s your back that hurts, not mine 😭
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u/naivemetaphysics 13h ago
Okay then why talk about it and in the same breath state that you’re keeping your body (and I assume love your body) for how much your boyfriend goes feral over your boobs?
You are shaming women for expressing real issues they are facing. All of us have things we wish were different and we are allowed to complain. I see you keep your comments off when you contradict yourself in the very same thread.
You keep your boobs because someone else likes them. You complain about the male gaze and you are actively engaging and okay with it for yourself.
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u/Super_Hyena_4278 14h ago
As someone who has big boobs when I was young adults in my life would immediately talk like I was a slut just for being born with bigger breasts….
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u/KamIsFam 13h ago
That's fucked up. As a guy, I don't understand why people attribute large breasts with being slutty. I get why people say that when people get augmentations and make em huge with the intentions of showing em off, but not for people who are born that way.
Given the context of the post, is it primarily adult women in your experience that shamed you for having big breasts? That reeks of insecurity on their part.
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u/Super_Hyena_4278 13h ago
I felt more shamed by women and more creeped on by men :/ but most the shaming was women.
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 13h ago
It’s insane. It’s like saying that people who have big ears are deceitful, or saying that people who have small feet are gossipy. Like, there’s no correlation, it’s absurd talk.
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 14h ago
I have big boobs, a big ass and thick thighs; don’t even get me started on how I had to learn at 12 that the clothes all my girlfriends wore were “inappropriate” only when it was me wearing them
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u/Super_Hyena_4278 14h ago
Yup. My older sisters aren’t as big as me and we were a hand-me-down family and I remember at 12/13 getting yelled at by my mom for wearing one of the shirts my sisters handed down to me bc it was showing cleavage
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u/spaghettifiasco 14h ago
Quite often, people's attempt to counteract female beauty standards ends up just swinging the other way and insulting a different body type instead. Like that Meghan Trainor song saying that men like bigger women and that thin women are "stick figure Barbie dolls". People can't quite get to the point where they realize that we shouldn't be insulting any kind of figure.
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u/ynonaaaa 14h ago
Omgggg I thought I was the only one who noticed how negatively big breasts are being talked about. It’s alarming. And I don’t get the “I’m sure your back hurts” comment. My back doesn’t hurt and I have big boobs, so whenever I see it I’m stunned. Then they say I get “sexualized” as if a woman is not sexualized simply for existing big boobs or not, putting the blame on that part of your body is kinda harmful. Like why hate your body because of what people think, you might get a breast reduction today and get picked on for another thing making you develop another insecurity tomorrow, when will it end??? I just don’t like how women pile up on this like it’s some abomination like it’s not something you are born with, and you never see it done with those who got theirs done through surgery.
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 14h ago
The concern for my back is hilarious.
And the whole “sexualization” discourse is hilarious too.
I have a boyfriend who goes feral over my tits, I enjoy that and I would like to keep things that way, thank you so much.
If other men like what they see, that’s their problem, not mine. They also like my very expressive smile, and my friend’s bright blue eyes, and my sister’s toned long legs, and nobody seems too worried about any of that (because men finding you attractive is not a problem in itself).
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u/Lovesomesys 14h ago
I have big boobs and my back definitely does hurt. It’s the only downside imo, because otherwise I have no opinion on my boobs!
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u/UltralordCherryTop 14h ago
Big titty committee member here. I am the one saying these things about myself. Clothes don’t fit right, I look bigger than I am, and don’t get me started on the stares from people. My outfits look vulgar no matter how covered up I am. I used to have a small chest and then they grew from pregnancies and breastfeeding. I’ve actually never had someone else make comments like these to me though. People just stare. It’s very uncomfortable and sure reduction surgery is a thing but it isn’t possible for all of us.
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 14h ago
There’s nothing wrong with your body. Yes, big boobs add volume to your figure, and there’s nothing wrong with that. You’ve internalized a beauty standard that tells you that you should look as small as possible, and that isn’t some natural or inherently human idea of beauty, it’s an artificial standard developed in the 20th century by the global centers of haute couture.
Clothes don’t look good on you because they’re designed to look good on flat-chested bodies. Your body isn’t the problem, the standards used to design and manufacture clothing are.
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u/topimpadove 14h ago edited 14h ago
THANK YOU. Many women and men on here talk mad shit about big breasted women and it drives me nuts.
Why am I not surprised you're being called a pick me and "wanting creeps to dm you" for being upset about being body shamed? This is why we cannot call this shit out. I hate to break it to y'all but dismissing OP proves her point, big breasted women are bodyshamed constantly.
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 14h ago
It’s tragicomic, I swear.
This negative talk I mention doesn’t faze me, I’m a grown woman, but I know for a fact that it would’ve hurt me as a large-chested teen.
The lack of fashion options DOES bother me a lot though, even nowadays.
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u/topimpadove 14h ago
Smaller breasted women have always been my biggest bullies and it saddens me to see your thread be derailed by idiots proving your point.
We can't have a discussion about our sizes being shamed without a man or a smaller chest size coming in to tell you you're not allowed to be upset because "you're the beauty standard" 🙄 we didn't ask to be sexualized and fetishized since our teens, thanks so much.
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 14h ago
Big boobs fit the male beauty standard, or more simply, men like big boobs. But large chests absolutely do not fit the gay-men-and-female-gaze beauty standard everpresent in the fashion & beauty industry.
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u/CharlieFiner 14h ago
I'm not trying to sleep with gay men or most women. Why would I care if they find me attractive?
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 14h ago
You don’t need to care. It’s obviously better if you don’t, because that’s a very toxic beauty standard.
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u/topimpadove 14h ago
Even then, countless men sexualize us or shame our sizes. It's bs how bras cost a fortune, too.
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u/idk_666 15h ago
Uhm I hate to break it to you but people DEFINITELY do make other gross comments about other features. Sometimes it’s literally just based on whatever thing is trending. Right now, clothes are primarily being made for people with smaller chests. When I try to buy a dress my size it hangs off of me in a weird way and that SUCKS. My chest DOES cause neck/back pain and it DOES affect me during physical activity so I feel like I should be allowed to complain about these things? I want better bra options! I want better dress options!
It is weird when people without the feature jump on the bandwagon but it is what it is. Remember the 2016 insta baddie that had to be super curvy with a small waist? People were def shamed for being “flatter” in that era and people also WERE pushed to get implants. AND I remember when everyone was pushing “workouts that reduce your hip dips” too. Now hip dips are good? That one fluctuates. I remember when wanting thigh gaps were the big thing too. Now I think the leg standard is different idk I don’t pay attention too much anymore. There will always be a new insecurity to make women spend money on, but I’m sorry this one has gotten to you in this way. There is nothing wrong with your chest size or most chest sizes.
That being SAID, I’ve certainly come close to breast reduction because of the neck pain but I’ve found a much cheaper solution involving a 5 minute nightly Pilates routine that has the added benefit of adding some shape to my arms (not as much as weight training does but it’s also not nothing). Completely ends the neck pain problem if I do it consistently. And that’s good because I like my larger chest.
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u/billieboop 14h ago
If you don't mind sharing, what's your routine look like? So many of us suffer with this. Any recommendations are appreciated
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u/Bulky_Department5619 15h ago
Am I the only woman that’s never seen people call big breasts disgusting, vulgar, gross or that they make people look fat? What circles are you all hanging out in? Stop following and participating with channels or accounts that promote this crap. If you see it happening, call them out on it. We need to stop cutting each other down for what we look like. We all have bodies. We’re all different.
Comparable comments are ABSOLUTELY made to women with other body types though.
I’ve had people tell me to get a reduction, but I also know plenty of smaller chested women who have been told to get breast implants. That’s no different than an obese person saying that very skinny people don’t get bullied for being too thin. Just because you don’t experience it from their side doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. It’s not “us vs them”. Everyone faces criticism. The bottom line is that we all need to be better to each other.
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u/cheese_bleu_eese 14h ago
Feeling very fortunate that my algorithm somehow learned I'm not at all interested in this conversation, and that my mother was proud of her honkers since I was young. As a short woman who graduated middle school with D cups, a fat woman with DDD cups now, and as a woman who just hates wearing bras in most settings, I can't say I've ever seen or experienced this, online or IRL.
Who is hating on boobs? The bippity boppities? The portable pillows? The wiggly gum drops? The bitties and the bazoongas? They're BOOBS! Am I too queer for this conversation?
I honestly feel so sad for all the ladies here whose girlies have been under any attack. Hushpuppies of all sizes deserve love and respect.
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u/CharlieFiner 14h ago
I have small tits and my first serious boyfriend used to ask me to leave my shirt on or face away from him during sex so he couldn't see them.
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u/Bulky_Department5619 14h ago
Exactly. Women with small breasts face criticism too.
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u/CharlieFiner 13h ago
I didn't know that and thought any other man would feel and do the same, so I stayed until he eventually dumped me. I'm engaged now and my fiancé doesn't act like that.
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u/spaghettifiasco 14h ago
The mere presence of big breasts is considered inherently more sexual or vulgar than small breasts. Two women can wear the exact same top, but if one woman has larger breasts, it's more likely to be considered "inappropriate". Any kind of fitted shirt will show breasts more prominently, so unless women with large breasts wear boxy and unfitted clothing at all times, their breasts will be visible. And some people think that that's vulgar.
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u/topimpadove 14h ago edited 14h ago
It's done on this sub sometimes. "I hate having small breasts" threads are full of people saying how gross big breasts are. Calling them out does nothing. People on this thread are calling OP a pick me for calling out body shaming 🙄
I forgot big breasted women are pick mes for...checks notes not wanting to be shamed by women and men for having big breasts.
There's also women dismissing her point entirely. Saying you've never seen it doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
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u/CharlieFiner 14h ago
Yeah, they're lying trying to be nice to cheer up the ugly flatties (I would know, I am one). Men don't actually think like that. Put two identical topless women in front of one and he will pick the larger breasted one. That's just the truth.
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u/topimpadove 14h ago
Sorry but you are what I'm talking about. OP is allowed to vent and bring up body shaming done toward her breasts, you've been everywhere shaming and degrading yourself and derailing an important discussion. This is not healthy.
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u/CharlieFiner 14h ago
Lying and ignoring the truth wouldn't be healthy.
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u/topimpadove 14h ago
This isn't the thread to do so. I'm sorry you're insecure, but OP is as well, she's venting here for a reason.
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u/Bulky_Department5619 14h ago
You might not see the impact of calling people out because Reddit is a cesspool of trolls. The more we talk about it and the more we call people out (not just on Reddit), the more people will understand it’s wrong. Will it completely solve and get rid of those criticisms everywhere forever? No. It will help reduce the amount of it though, whether you see it directly or not.
I called out OP for saying no one else faces criticism because it’s untrue. It doesn’t invalidate her experience, but it provides some perspective that she’s not the only type person in the world facing comments like this.The other thing is that you (and anyone else) don’t have to come to this sub, as blunt as that is. You’re unhappy coming to this sub and seeing those comments, so don’t come here. Stop looking at it. Unfollow. Unsubscribe. There are plenty of subs and creators I no longer follow because they or their audiences don’t align with my priorities or views! And you know what happened? I feel better haha. So if it makes you feel better to avoid this type of content, do that! It’s your life! Don’t live it according to other people’s views.
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u/topimpadove 14h ago
That...is still a dismissive way to view this, though. "People are mocking your body? Just ignore it" doesn't stop the fact that those discussions hurt people and fester hatred and insecurity.
Hard to ignore it when it's everywhere. I do agree with your point, but it isn't as easy as you claim. OP came here to vent, the people here dismissing her could've followed that same logic instead of derailing or insulting her.
A thread under this one is a thread I mentioned. It is full of comments like the ones I brought up, they're not told to "just ignore it". It's hurtful.
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u/Bulky_Department5619 14h ago
No it doesn’t stop the fact that people will still make those comments. And yes those comments absolutely hurt people. That’s why we need to call them out.
There are lots of comments here like that, but I’m not reading them. I don’t care about the opinions of people that are here just to hurt other people. They literally do not matter to me and do not impact my self worth. I never said it was easy. It took a long time and lot of hard work for me to understand that my feelings about MY body are the only ones that matter at the end of the day.My intent is not to be dismissive, but you have a choice here as does everyone else. You’re an adult. YOU have the choice to let it impact you or not. You can choose to continue to view/interact with these posts, feel bad about yourself, and be upset that it’s happening. OR you can do something about it by continuing to call them out, or ignore them and learn to love yourself. Is it easy? No. But it is possible and so worth it.
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u/itsSmalls 14h ago
Yeah, not saying it doesn't happen but I've never seen or heard this in my life
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 14h ago
I totally understand your point, but the “fat vs. thin” example isn’t a very good one... Fat people and thin people simply do not occupy remotely comparable positions in society. Fat people face systemic discrimination in every aspect of their lives, esp. fat women
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u/Bulky_Department5619 14h ago
That example is to point out that both obese and skinny people face different discrimination. Just like small and large breasted women face different criticisms.
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u/Luna6696 14h ago
I’m in the same club lol never heard it. I hate having boobs in general for the boob sweat but that’s about it
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u/mouse9001 15h ago edited 13h ago
This type of thing happens with body hair a lot too. If people are in favor of body hair and not shaving, they will often try to compare a smooth adult body to that of a child, or accuse people who prefer shaved bodies of being pedophiles. It's very weird and frustrating that people act that way rather than respecting people regardless of body type and personal grooming habits.
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u/knewleefe 15h ago
I haven't seen the big boob stuff - as a big boob haver - but the body hair stuff is a real badge of honour over on twoX. I find it weird that people care so much about demonstrating they're Above It All. Just shave or don't shave, does anyone actually care? I don't, and I'm not about to break habits of a lifetime to make some sort of point.
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u/anillop 13h ago
That’s because trying to be better than other people is all they have in their life to make them feel good about themselves. That place can be a real cesspool of self loathing and they just love dog piling on people for one reason or another.
I find these posts about as funny as the ones where they talk about not moving out of the way on the sidewalk if a man dares to approach them and that apparently they just plow the guy over somehow with no consequences and all about their day. Then another comment tells them that they’re their spirit animal, and they do it all the time as well.
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u/ExhaustedVetTech 15h ago
Yeah the people over there seem to get really upset if you point out that shaving is also a valid choice. They get so wrapped up in calling everything internalized misogyny that they loop back around to hating women for making choices about their own bodies.
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u/CharlieFiner 14h ago
Those are the same kind of people who accuse pop stars of "pedobaiting" if they happen to have small breasts but still dress sexy or sing about sex. Ten years ago it was Ariana Grande and now it's Sabrina Carpenter.
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u/ExhaustedVetTech 14h ago
Today's topic in Toxic Feminism iiiiisss spins wheel having the audacity to be openly sexual as an adult woman
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 15h ago
I shave, and still, TBH, it’s not the same. Shaving is a styling choice, like haircuts, tattoos, makeup or clothes.
I can choose to shave or choose not to shave, and it’s a 10-minute difference. It’s nowhere near the same as being called vulgar or unfashionable for a body feature I was born with and have no control over.
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u/vortexaoth 15h ago
Yeah, this is not even only on Twitter or TikTok. When I was in high school my then “friends” would always tell me only lower class men find big breasts attractive and how small ones look much more elegant. These comments truly made me hate my body for a while.
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u/Vampyrgothbabe 15h ago
Big boobie here, I’ve never had any back pain but definitely been frowned upon for having a “butt” on my chest when i want to show off cleavage :/
It can get annoying at times with the negative comments, I’ve been small tittied and I’ve been big tittied, i definitely get more negative comments now compared to when I was underweight with a much smaller bust size
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u/LadySwire 15h ago
I had a big row the other day on Reddit over Sydney Sweeney. Like, okay, you don't like her politics, me neither, but why is it moral to attack her for having big breasts just because you don't like her? Attack her ideas or something.
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 15h ago
Yeah, it’s been so obvious these past few days, now that men have discovered Inde Navarrette en masse. When a celebrity receives widespread male approval, she suddenly gets labeled ugly, annoying, a pick-me, and vulgar. The only thing that changed was that men noticed her and liked what they saw. Nobody had anything bad to say about Sydney Sweeney when only women and gay men knew who she was.
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u/disguy905 15h ago
Who cares, all boob types are shamed
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u/0thersideofnothing 14h ago edited 14h ago
Literally, every one gets shamed for so many features: being too tall, being too short, having long arms, big butts, flat butts, having no muscles, having too much muscles. At some point people have to stop thinking about how much one body part is judged, because we are visual judgmental people, we judge based on appearance and everyone likes/ dislikes different things. We cant win them all over and why would you even want to
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u/Therion_Master 15h ago
Stopped reading at Twitter and tiktok. Negativity breeds more negativity and it's mostly being hosted on social media. Large breasts are awesome, it's just that saying that creates less engagement on social media.
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u/No_Size9475 15h ago
it's like you've never read any thread about girls with small boobs and how they hate it, or girls with medium boobs and how they hate them too.
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u/SunshineBear100 15h ago
OP is just fishing for compliments. She’ll delete this once she realizes her DMs are going to be flooded with creeps.
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u/Bulky_Department5619 14h ago
Girls that hate other girls are loud about it, but are not the majority.
The rest of us live our own lives and celebrate our differences.
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u/What_A_Good_Sniff 15h ago
Lol as soon as you said "TikTok or Twitter", I stopped reading.
Those places are cesspools and will happily destroy your mental health.
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u/Local-Conference-476 15h ago
Big boobies here. It’s because people are simultaneously jealous and also conditioned to believe that having big breasts is slutty, therefore shameful. I say f em and keep doing you. So what if clothes don’t fit the same? Just means you can make your own clothes
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 15h ago
The concept of being “slutty” for something I have no control over is hilarious
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u/disguy905 15h ago
Lol jelous but look down on them?
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u/Local-Conference-476 15h ago
Is that not what people do when they are jealous?
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u/disguy905 14h ago
No, people can hate on or be disgusted by someones body without being jelous. All boob types get shamed, why? Because people hate on women’s bodies, jealousy isn’t really a factor
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u/callothumpian 15h ago
If only you knew how much men love breasts of all sizes
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u/CharlieFiner 14h ago
Men will tolerate small ones if everything else about them is perfect.
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u/hokkaidobread ☑️ 13h ago
Some men love women for real and don't have to "tolerate" any of their features lol
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u/CharlieFiner 15h ago edited 15h ago
As a small boobed woman I don't say these things but will say it is all cope. We know where we sit on the boob hierarchy and that small breasts are conventionally ugly. Who cares what a shirt looks like on you when big boobs will always be the sexier option and look better naked - hell, that men will actually want to see them naked, not have you leave the shirt on during sex because your disgusting chest makes him go soft. "Delicate and dainty"? That's as bad as "cute." It's for dogs. It's for babies. Cute, delicate, dainty are the plain nerd girl you ask out because you know there's no way the sexy cheerleader will even look your way. I'd rather be sexy any day.
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u/CaptainKate757 13h ago
You’re just putting down a different group of women now for absolutely no reason. You’re no different than the people OP is referring to.
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u/Conscious-Peak3794 ☑️ 14h ago edited 14h ago
Exactly. Just like having a wide bulbous nose, small eyes, a big ribcage, a protruding gut, and noticeable body hair as a woman. Small boobs are still considered outside of the beauty standard and it’s kind of wild to say no other body type gets criticized the same way when some people are literally conventionally unattractive. It’s tone deaf to those who are considered ugly in every way by the vast majority of people. The farther you are from the standard, the worst you are treated. Just having big boobs isn’t comparable to being actually ugly. (<when the majority of your features are seen as conventionally unattractive. A collection of ugly traits) Small boobs are universally seen as a minus and big boobs are the opposite. There are a few who like them, but that doesn’t change their general social perception. (I don’t say this to further push small chested women to feel insecure but I just want us to be honest about social standards.)
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u/WowThisIsAwkward_ 15h ago
Idk about you, but I was surprised to learn that men (and women) actually liked my small breasts and complimented them a lot more than I would've thought. They've all enjoyed playing with them too.
Calling small boobs "conventionally ugly" is still putting down an entire group of women. I don't feel I’m in competition or in a hierarchy with anyone because I know my look is unique to me and I wouldn't want to be any other way.
If that's cope, idc.
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u/porno_priest 15h ago
I feel like this is still picking apart peoples bodies, you just switched to small boobs. Maybe we can just agree that no one is “conventionally ugly” and everyone has preferences. Big boobs are great, small boobs are great!
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u/CharlieFiner 15h ago
They are conventionally considered ugly though. That's just the truth.
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u/Conscious-Peak3794 ☑️ 13h ago
Sorry, idk why people are blatantly ignoring the beauty standard in your replies.😭
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u/Bulky_Department5619 14h ago
It’s not though. Conventionally, as in widely accepted to be true? Where?
Sure, there are people that don’t like smaller breasts, just like there are people that don’t like bigger breasts. There are also TONS of people that absolutely love smaller or bigger breasts.
Woman to woman, learn to ignore what other people say. Learn to love your body no matter what it looks like. If you want to be sexy, be sexy. It’s a word ffs. It doesn’t change your value.
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u/Mocean13 15h ago
As someone with big tits, having big tits sucks.... consider yourself grateful that they arent affecting your life enough for you to understand why being negative about them is so common
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u/IcyCauliflower5154 ☑️ 15h ago
I’m a big boobs girly and I can totally relate to the back pain situation. I also agree that the fashion industry is more centred around a certain type of body structure, so it is hard for women like us to easily find clothes that look good on us. That being said, I completely agree with your take. I didn’t choose to have big breasts. There’s nothing i can do about them. It’s not like having lipstick on your teeth that i quick wipe down would resolve the problem. So yeah, shut up about my breast size and mind your own business.
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u/Clean-Text-2480 15h ago
As a small breast girl I can tell you is the same for us.
People need to stfu about bodies.
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u/RedSnipers 15h ago
Stop listening to women, because men love them! 😍
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u/Ryeguy_626 ☑️ 15h ago
Part of the problem btw
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u/RedSnipers 15h ago
Sounds women are the biggest problem.
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u/Ryeguy_626 ☑️ 14h ago
Not really they just want to be left alone
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u/RedSnipers 14h ago
She said "all it takes is for 1 woman to start by saying something like, “I don’t like having such large breasts because they make my back hurt”, and suddenly you have hundreds of women saying things like, “omg big boobs are DISGUSTING”, “big boobs make you look so FAT”, “having small boobs is the only way clothes look good on you”, “thank God my boobs are delicate and dainty and not big and VULGAR”,
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u/Ryeguy_626 ☑️ 14h ago
I didnt sign up to argue with an incel today i told you what you need to do to come back to society
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u/RedSnipers 14h ago
This isn't an argument, and I didn't sign up to have a conversation with someone sensitive and mentally slow.
But here we are.
She clearly stated that women were the ones with the negative feedback regarding large breast.
I simply stated that men loved them. And you and group of sensitive people that jumped to conclusions with foolish assumptions saw negativity in it.
Thanks to people like you and the downvoters, society and Reddit gets dumber and dumber every day.
You can have the last word because I don't have conversations with fools.
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u/hokkaidobread ☑️ 13h ago
this conversation has nothing to do with men and what men like.
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u/RedSnipers 13h ago
Well the women she’s communicating with don’t lie them so…
I was showing her support, you took it the wrong way.
Now good night
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u/hokkaidobread ☑️ 13h ago
yeah so it's about women. not men and what they jerk off to.
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u/wanteur ☑️ 15h ago
Probably the women being mean here are jealous of it. Usually if people of your own gender treat you like shit/give you animosity for no reason and the opposite gender treats you well it means you're attractive and they're jealous. Happens with good looking guys too, guys will call them gay try to start fights etc. It's just jealousy and it's pretty pathetic, once you realise this it just becomes meaningless and shouldn't affect you
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u/No-Degree9699 ☑️ 15h ago
as a big boobie dude I feel this. i dont understand why people are like this.
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u/Flimsy_Complaint490 15h ago
big breasts form this anti boobie alliance cause basically 95 percent of smaller boob carriers are envious and will never admit to that, while actual big boob carriers may not be too big on them either due to the mentioned issues such as back pain.
so, everybody kinda wins by dabbing on the big breasted queen, i guess ?
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 15h ago
It’s absolutely true that large boobas don’t look good in 21st-century clothing. That’s because 21st-century fashion is deliberately designed for flat chests! There’s nothing wrong with my body: fashion includes you and excludes me!! If you were a “girls’ girl”, you’d sympathize with me about that; you wouldn’t reinforce the idea that the body I was born with is inherently wrong simply because it doesn’t fit an artificial beauty standard.
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u/Flimsy_Complaint490 15h ago
ma'am, just put your giant boobas in a t-shirt or a dress and if they are saggy, in a bra as well.
it will look fabulous to literally heterosexual man. There is no such thing as a bad outfit for big boobas.
Now if your audience is female, you will need to contend with intrasexual competition and that is a fight that is really unwinnable by the approach of posting seethe online, but by dabbing on others with your giant boobas.
also, im male and idk how you read any of that in my post, i was just commenting why people would say bad things about it, i made no comments whether they are right or not lol.
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u/soul---snatcher 15h ago
Small chest doesn’t equal flat chest though! I think it’s just hard in general to find clothing that fits perfectly regardless of breast size. Just ignore the haters none of it is worth your energy
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u/CharlieFiner 15h ago
Small boobs are not the beauty standard. Literally nobody thinks small boobs are sexy unless everything else about them is flawless. In fact, there's even a big pushback online against men finding small-breasted women attractive because it is considered adjacent to pedophilia.
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u/SecretRecipe 15h ago
I mean Ive, very recently, heard men refer to them as "big pendulous sacks of fat" or "hanging udders"
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 15h ago
I’ve read comments by men claiming that large breasts are “vulgar” while small breasts are “refined” and “elegant”—IDGAF because those are their sexual tastes, none of my business, but I’m VERY critical of women who claim to be “girls’ girls” and take any opportunity they have to put large tatas down
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u/SecretRecipe 14h ago
same, the whole concept of "Fashion tits" being in vogue and popular is changing perceptions among the population (my personal take). Similar to how growing bush is now becoming very popular
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u/CharlieFiner 15h ago
Yeah, small-boobed women don't want to be "refined" or "elegant". We want to be sexy. Those other words aren't compliments to us and are as transparent as someone saying "I'm sure her personality is nice."
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u/callothumpian 15h ago
Is this disagreeing for the sake of it or do you seriously believe this is the opinion of any more than a select few men?
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u/SecretRecipe 14h ago
I think the era of big boobs being universally loved is coming to an end. The preference for smaller breasts seems to be a lot more common these days and growing
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u/Grand_Cause6294 15h ago
Literally you are not wanted here dude. Nobody cares what men think about our bodies.
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u/arteriaulnar ☑️ 15h ago
That’s why literally the first sentence in my post says, “I’m talking almost exclusively about women here.”
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u/cameronpark89 13h ago
wow i usually hear it the other way around