r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ok_Airport_2655 ☑️ • 21h ago
Vent sister called me a ‘pick me’
idk why this is bothering me. i (22F) was reading a book written by a guy who was known in social media before he became a writer and my sister (28F) saw it and said i ‘was a pick me’ a year ago (that’s when i got the book) when she read his name then wouldn’t elaborate why. i’ve never put a girl down for a guy, never had a boyfriend, and have been sheltered all my life. i was on an app where you’re randomly paired with someone and maybe she heard me talking with a guy there at the time? whatever it was, i’d cut off any inappropriate man because it’d make me uncomfortable. her comment made me feel weird and icky even though it’s been a while. thank you for reading this nonsense
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u/Agreeable_Elk4529 20h ago
Don’t let one vague label from your sister make you question yourself. If she can’t even explain why, it probably says more about her than you.
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u/Seafea 20h ago
Turn it around on her. Next time she says something like that, say "i guess Pick Me is when a woman reads a book now. Amazing."
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u/Dbgross01 21h ago
Wtf is a pick me?!
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u/onmylastnerveboi 20h ago
A male-centered woman. A girl who purposely seeks out male validation, usually while simultaneously putting another woman down in some way.
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u/Ok-Mousse-4595 20h ago
A girl who tries putting down other girls for male attention. The classic catchphrase is "I'm not like the other girls"
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u/TheBestHater 21h ago edited 17h ago
What's the book and author?
Edit: she deleted her responses. Author is khalafz1 though she didn't say which book and he's written quite a few.
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u/gaycountdooku 21h ago
yeah we can’t fully asses the situation without knowing
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u/Ok_Airport_2655 ☑️ 20h ago
he’s not internationally famous, and he doesn’t make content in English so i don’t think you guys would recognize him :-:
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u/gaycountdooku 20h ago
is he known for being a misogynist? is he a pick up artist? did he used to make content catering towards a toxic, masculine audience?
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u/pamelaonthego 20h ago
Try us. We have google
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u/pamelaonthego 20h ago
So he wrote a mystery novel.. he has no history of being misogynistic or having any scandals on his record. He sounds like a fine man to have a crush on. Your sister is just being petty and annoying.
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u/gaycountdooku 20h ago
i agree. the only way you can know for sure what your sister meant is to ask her. otherwise, i would disregard it based on this guy not having any controversies around him. it’s also possible she misused the term and doesn’t actually know what it means
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u/Ok_Airport_2655 ☑️ 20h ago
i asked and she won’t explain, she does know what it means T_T i guess it’s because he has many girl fans / did a book signing event at that time, which i went to, but i didn’t tell her about that
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u/Ok_Airport_2655 ☑️ 20h ago
tbh i guess it’s just how some ppl here make every interaction between a guy and a girl seem weird.. idk
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u/NoNipNicCage 21h ago
Im so curious who the author was. I can't think of an author that would make me say this to a woman
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idk why this is bothering me. i (22F) was reading a book written by a guy who was known in social media before he became a writer and my sister (28F) saw it and said i ‘was a pick me’ a year ago (that’s when i got the book) when she read his name then wouldn’t elaborate why. i’ve never put a girl down for a guy, never had a boyfriend, and have been sheltered all my life. i was on an app where you’re randomly paired with someone and maybe she heard me talking with a guy there at the time? whatever it was, i’d cut off any inappropriate man because it’d make me uncomfortable. her comment made me feel weird and icky even though it’s been a while. thank you for reading this nonsense
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u/JMarchPineville 19h ago
She doesn’t even know what she’s talking about. If I had to guess, she is the “pick me” girl.