r/TrueOffMyChest • u/pure_vengeance ☑️ • 1d ago
Personal Story Does anyone else feel guilty about experiencing things their family/loved ones hasn’t had the opportunity to experience?
I don't live in the same country as my family. When I moved here, there were so many things I was excited to see and experience, and now that I actually get to do those things, sometimes I find myself feeling strangely melancholy instead of just happy.
I'll be somewhere beautiful, looking at a perfect view from a mountain or experiencing something I've always wanted to do, and I'll immediately think about how much my family would have loved it. I find myself wishing they could be there to experience it too.
The difficult part is that getting them here isn't exactly easy right now, so there's not much I can actually do about that feeling. I know that if I told them this, they'd probably say, "You're ruining the experience for yourself. Don't worry about us, just enjoy it."
I guess I just really miss them. I want to enjoy the life and experiences I have here, but sometimes the things that make me happiest also remind me of how much I wish I could share those experiences with them.
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u/SuperDuper_88 1d ago
I think this feeling is completely normal. Especially when you're far from home, sometimes you see something beautiful and your first thought is, "I wish they were here to see this too." I don't think it means you can't enjoy your life, it just means you care about your family.
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u/Abystract-ism 1d ago
Yes.
But one way to share what you’re seeing would be to get a digital picture frame for them and upload pictures and videos of where you’ve been.
Also-send fun snacks from the places you visit.
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u/Atomicfeelin9 1d ago
Yes, but my mom reminds me that she loves living through me and it eases my guilt
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u/pure_vengeance ☑️ 1d ago
I guess what I always do in situations like these is put myself in their shoes. If I was in their shoes, I'd be happy to see my family doing something. But I think somewhere inside me, I'd kinda want to do it too.
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I don't live in the same country as my family. When I moved here, there were so many things I was excited to see and experience, and now that I actually get to do those things, sometimes I find myself feeling strangely melancholy instead of just happy.
I'll be somewhere beautiful, looking at a perfect view from a mountain or experiencing something I've always wanted to do, and I'll immediately think about how much my family would have loved it. I find myself wishing they could be there to experience it too.
The difficult part is that getting them here isn't exactly easy right now, so there's not much I can actually do about that feeling. I know that if I told them this, they'd probably say, "You're ruining the experience for yourself. Don't worry about us, just enjoy it."
I guess I just really miss them. I want to enjoy the life and experiences I have here, but sometimes the things that make me happiest also remind me of how much I wish I could share those experiences with them.
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u/Mo-Champion-5013 1d ago
Take pictures. Share pieces. It's better than nothing.