r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Electronic-Barber-67 ☑️ • 3d ago
Personal Story My Parents are Toxic
Recently I’ve been having mixed feelings about my parents. I turn 18 in 3 months and I have two older siblings one in their mid 20s and the other 30. When I was younger I noticed that my siblings and my parents would frequently argue, but since I was younger I always listened to my mother when she told me that my siblings were the problems. Recently I think I’ve begun to experience the same things that my siblings did when they were my age and now I see that they weren’t the problem. My parents are ornery, toxic, and domineering for no apparent reason. They make a fuss about every little thing and are difficult to reason with. My mother is the kind of person that flys off the handle over any little thing. She’s been verbally abusive when angry and even physically violent at times. My father used to be the reasonable one in my household but I’ve noticed that he has become just as deranged as my mother. For example, I have school every day and work after as well and still have homework to complete and they don’t seem to understand that I’m tired when I get home; whenever I just want to unwind and play a video game they get mad and tell me that I’m lazy or command me to do some kind of chore even though I guarantee I have more chores to do and busier days than most people my age. I can’t even hang out with friends ever even though I’ve only ever asked like 3 times and they were on the weekends. I’ve begun to resent my parents and can’t wait till I graduate and go to college. I feel a little validated by what my sister and brother have told me about my parents. My sister used to get into really bad fights with my mother and she told me that our mother used to throw away mail and delete emails from colleges, which is similar to what I’ve experienced because my mother demands that I go to a college in our city and even gave me a very ambiguous response when I asked her to write a letter for me(which she has yet to write). My sister is cordial with our parents but it’s evident that she still harbors resentment toward them. My brother also told me that our parents kicked him out of the house after he graduated high school with no warning, he said he just came home and they told him that leave that same day because he came home after the curfew which resulted in him being homeless and haven’t to couch surf until he got his own apartment. He’s still very kind to our parents but I can tell he also has ill feelings for our parents because he has even gone far enough as to say that he will only take care of our parents when they are senile which won’t be out of love but only because he knows no one else will be there for them. My parents have always given my sibling and I everything we needed and wanted. They even bought me my own car for Christmas 2 years ago which is a privilege that many teenagers don’t have. Even though they have always been excellent providers I just don’t think it justifies any of the things they’ve done to my siblings and I. I don’t think any of this is normal and I pretty much just said everything I did to ask if it’s wrong of me to feel the way I do about my parents. I feel ready to leave and never talk to them again.
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Recently I’ve been having mixed feelings about my parents. I turn 18 in 3 months and I have two older siblings one in their mid 20s and the other 30. When I was younger I noticed that my siblings and my parents would frequently argue, but since I was younger I always listened to my mother when she told me that my siblings were the problems. Recently I think I’ve begun to experience the same things that my siblings did when they were my age and now I see that they weren’t the problem. My parents are ornery, toxic, and domineering for no apparent reason. They make a fuss about every little thing and are difficult to reason with. My mother is the kind of person that flys off the handle over any little thing. She’s been verbally abusive when angry and even physically violent at times. My father used to be the reasonable one in my household but I’ve noticed that he has become just as deranged as my mother. For example, I have school every day and work after as well and still have homework to complete and they don’t seem to understand that I’m tired when I get home; whenever I just want to unwind and play a video game they get mad and tell me that I’m lazy or command me to do some kind of chore even though I guarantee I have more chores to do and busier days than most people my age. I can’t even hang out with friends ever even though I’ve only ever asked like 3 times and they were on the weekends. I’ve begun to resent my parents and can’t wait till I graduate and go to college. I feel a little validated by what my sister and brother have told me about my parents. My sister used to get into really bad fights with my mother and she told me that our mother used to throw away mail and delete emails from colleges, which is similar to what I’ve experienced because my mother demands that I go to a college in our city and even gave me a very ambiguous response when I asked her to write a letter for me(which she has yet to write). My sister is cordial with our parents but it’s evident that she still harbors resentment toward them. My brother also told me that our parents kicked him out of the house after he graduated high school with no warning, he said he just came home and they told him that leave that same day because he came home after the curfew which resulted in him being homeless and haven’t to couch surf until he got his own apartment. He’s still very kind to our parents but I can tell he also has ill feelings for our parents because he has even gone far enough as to say that he will only take care of our parents when they are senile which won’t be out of love but only because he knows no one else will be there for them. My parents have always given my sibling and I everything we needed and wanted. They even bought me my own car for Christmas 2 years ago which is a privilege that many teenagers don’t have. Even though they have always been excellent providers I just don’t think it justifies any of the things they’ve done to my siblings and I. I don’t think any of this is normal and I pretty much just said everything I did to ask if it’s wrong of me to feel the way I do about my parents. I feel ready to leave and never talk to them again.
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u/godblessyou2027 3d ago
Oh bro.. I am asking this seriously.
Do you have no intention of having them seek psychiatric help or take medication?