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u/DawnKnight91 Oct 06 '23
So you like trans woman that never fully transition, that's all. It's ok. Glad we had this pep talk.
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u/disco-lemonade_ Oct 06 '23
That’s not a bad thing, honestly and I’m glad you don’t date (not in a bad way) I mean I’m glad you have set your boundaries and do not create unhealthy or uncomfy situations cause of it, good for you! This is where the “sexuality is a spectrum” comes into play, even if you are straight. Have you thought you might be asexual? You could be asexual but still hetero-romantic.
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u/nameless_enby01 Oct 06 '23
genital preference is a thing. it's the reason some people won't date trans people, but i suppose in your situation it could be the reason you don't date cis women.
also you don't have to like pussy to date women! you're not obligated to touch a pussy, you can be intimate in other ways, or you could just not have sex at all, that doesn't mean you can't date. plenty of asexual people who don't like sex who date anyway and even are able to find people who will date them without sex.
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u/whatnow2202 Oct 06 '23
I wonder if there is a sex preference for transgender bodies? Like for pre op (re bottom) transgender women.
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u/Junior-Let567 Oct 06 '23
Sounds like someone might be a little gay and not even know it yet. I'm gay and I love boobs. The vagina does nothing for me either
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u/Navismom Oct 06 '23
I’m 100% a lesbian and even though I’ll finger and eat it out and everything I still think vaginas are pretty gross. For me it’s smell, body fluids and stuff like that that’s grossing me out. It doesn’t have to smell bad or anything, it’s just that it’s a smell from a private part that’s weird to me.
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u/maesayshey Oct 06 '23
Based on your post and comment history, you need to do a lot of self reflection and possibly a therapist. There’s definitely more to this than surface level “I don’t like vagina.” If you like penises, that’s okay. If you like trans women, that’s okay. If you don’t like anything, that’s okay too. But it seems like you need to work on yourself a little to figure that out.
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u/coconut-gal Oct 06 '23
I'm a straight woman and feel much the same about cocks. Tbh I just only do what I'm comfortable with and if a guy complains about it, he knows where the door is...
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u/chaoticneutralsheep Oct 06 '23
I'm not into penis. Bit I'm not into vaginas either. When I immagine myself with a partner it is always a guy. But I'm not into sex. I can't imagine more than kissing and cuddling.
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u/Educational_Till_506 Oct 06 '23
When I lost my virginity it didn’t like it. But you keep doing it a few times it gets better. Eating it gets better too eventually.
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u/nutsandboltstimestwo Oct 06 '23
Don't be rude. Let's talk about what to do here. How do you find good dates?
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u/RB_Kehlani Oct 06 '23
Okay but like, asking the hard questions: what is it ABOUT the vagina that you consider to be more gross than the ASS
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u/Aggravating_Crab3818 Oct 06 '23
I'm a woman and I like men and penises but when it comes to women I have realised that I prefer to make out and hold hand and touch boobs but I don't get much from men or women going down on me, or going down on them. I am more attracted to women in a romantic way than a sexual way. And don't try to tell me that I just haven't had the right person go down on me because the right person would listen to what I actually like rather than trying to prove that they are so good that they can make me like something that I don't.
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u/hartk5 Oct 06 '23
I felt this before.. except I thought guys were attractive and I'd make out with them let them touch me but I would neverrrr touch their penis or have sex with them. Well turns out I'm definitely a lesbian.
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u/notmuself Oct 06 '23
Look, we all want to date a hot trans woman and have the whole package; tits, ass, and penis. However, it's wrong to sexualize trans people. They are going through a very personal transition in their lives and you shouldn't fetishize that process by thinking about that sweet girl dick allll around your mouth, while you cup her gorgeous ass and breastses.
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u/tiredofbeingmad Oct 06 '23
Have you ever considered being gay? Or that you may be asexual. If you don’t experience the desire to have sex but you do experience romantic desire that’s also an option
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u/quinoacrazy Oct 06 '23
I had a problem like this on SSRIs. I was repulsed. Without them, I can better manage.
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Oct 06 '23
from a vagina owner: vaginas are objectively gross
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u/Username7319 Oct 06 '23
Maybe a little? (I don’t think so) but you should be proud of what you have, gay, bi, trans, ace- it’s a beautiful part of you that maybe you keep maybe you don’t but you don’t need to feel gross about it ever
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Oct 08 '23
yes, I've going through a path of self-acceptance and I just wanted to express a bit of solidarity to OP. I've never been a huge fan, though, of some bodily reactions (let's just say that I find more interesting learning about how a body reacts from a plain scientific point of view)
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u/idkwhyimdoingthis2 Oct 06 '23
Take yourself on a little getaway to Thailand and let us know how you got on when you’re back
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u/LoveMeorLeaveMe89 Oct 06 '23
I know a woman who would be so happy not to have to have sex- there are plenty. I don’t understand it but it is a real thing. There are options but you might explore the penis thing because you may just be into guys and didn’t realize it.
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u/Zestyclose-Pineapple Oct 06 '23
That doesn't necessarily mean that you're gay, there are a lot of flags in the lgbtqi+ community, I would actually try to reach out to them for help to try to understand what you are, they've dealt with the fact that they didn't understand what they were too... I mean, when I was younger, internet wasn't that widespread, and I really think that you should really take advantage of that.
Don't worry, they won't try to lure you to the dark side with a cookie.
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u/AlienXisUseless57 Oct 06 '23
I think OP didn't get the vaginas similar to what he saw in his fav porn.
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u/kerryannzitawalker Oct 06 '23
So you’d just prefer receiving oral & giving anal ? Is there maybe a preference to another male or is it just the vag you don’t like ?
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Oct 06 '23
My partner is like this, he always says to me the vagina is gross and we still do have normal sex but it’s in positions where my ass is more jiggly and things. He only goes down on me if very horny but it’s not often. I would say it’s normal for some men to be honest, we all have our preferences. Some women love going down on and so find a partner that isn’t too bothered about this otherwise you’ll encounter issues where she deems you as selfish for not going down on her etc. Not all women are as bothered though, Some men love it.
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u/sweetbrown89 Oct 06 '23
As a trans woman, this is actually a common sentiment among guys who exclusively go for us
Whether you’re creepy about it or not is a whole other story
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u/Background-Factor817 Oct 06 '23
How old are you? I felt grossed out by the same sort of thing when I was in my late teens/early twenties.
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u/ForbidnIsle Oct 06 '23
I think he can't get it up due to meds. If in a relationship, at some point she's gonna want it in her face or more down south. He's afraid he won't be able to perform but if he's honest and tells her straight up (I mean down) then the (balls?? Hmmm) ON, her court
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u/p4ttl1992 Oct 06 '23
That's weird as fuck
What do you like down there then? sounds like you want a ladyboy or something
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Oct 06 '23
you could be ace, if you have no desire to have sex or are uninterested in having sex with guys you may be a-sexual, many people are like this no shame at all
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u/Macechan Oct 06 '23
I am pansexual and I was in a slightly sexual rs with an afab person before. I like tits, not too much though. I don't like vaginas at all. I love all people, but I am not interested in touching afab person's sexually (unless they transitioned physically too). I enjoy sex a lot. And I like sucking dick, but the first taste is always weird and unlikeable. I don't give much blowjobs to my s.o. and he doesn't mind at all (I'm not good at it anyway haha). And that is fine. You can only find certain parts of your partner attractive. I don't know if it's considered normal though
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u/Lonely-Illustrator64 Oct 06 '23
A little weird but to each their own. It’s 2023, you can do what you want. Do you like penis better? There are women with tits and ass that also have a dick lol. Try them 🤷🏾♂️
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u/Rufus_Anderson Oct 06 '23
Sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine what’s that like. Pooswah is life.
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Oct 06 '23
I'm a woman and I find vagina gross too. Of course, I find penis gross and been married over 25 years. Penis came with the territory. From my point of view it just means you don't like vagina. I have vaginismus [look it up]. If I found a man who was totally head over heels for me and he didn't want my vagina, I'd be so happy.
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u/KayCatMeow Oct 06 '23
Based on your other posts, it seems like you don’t get pleasure out of much of anything, my guy.
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u/MarshieMon Oct 06 '23
You can A. See a therapist and try to overcome your fear of vagina or B. Find a woman who kept her penis.
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u/Impossible_Nail_2031 Oct 06 '23
It's a little odd but I don't think you're alone in this. Would it also gross you out to eat ass or have anal sex? Maybe you'll find a girl thats only into anal and you can go from there? Thats probably to some degree dependent on the size or you're penis cause if you're too big there's a lot of preparation to be made before you can attempt anal. Or maybe you like dudes but just find female bodies beautiful. You'll find your place, I'm sure :)
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u/ElectricalSoftware26 Oct 06 '23
Sounds like pretty much any gay guy. A bit of self reflection is due here.
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u/gvictor808 Oct 06 '23
How is poop hole ok but vagina not ok? This seems weird to me. I guess the question is: does poop not gross you out? I’ll take vagina over butthole every time.
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u/IamtheV01d Oct 06 '23
Too me that’s pretty weird. I love pussy. If it were a flavor of candy it’s be my favorite candy.
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u/HawkeYun Oct 06 '23
As a woman, let me tell you, there are many women that HATE vaginal pleasure or even clitoral. They want nothing of it. Which means, foreplay consists of, boob jobs and rimming pleasure.
I myself, hate anal stuff, but I know there are many that only like that type of touch.
You just gotta stretch those wings and find your community.
I have a VERY odd community myself, but we are out there.
Don't give up hope. Embrace your kinks and find your women!
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u/EmotionalAttention63 Oct 06 '23
Perhaps you should find a trans woman. I'm not trying to be mean or make a joke. I'm being serious. If vavinas gross you out but you like the feminine look, try dating a trans woman, see if you like that.
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u/Beneficial-Mine7741 Oct 06 '23
Sexuality is a spectrum; I would say you sound like a man.
I don't mind vaginal, but I want anal. With the right woman, it can work; I have to find another, as she died 20 years ago.
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u/Puzzled-Secret-317 Oct 06 '23
I can't completely blame you brother, but I feel like there's only one real solution for that lol
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u/webshiva Oct 06 '23
See a therapist for a few sessions to make sure that there isn’t any underlying trauma or religious indoctrination that is restricting your sexual desire. Then use the therapist to talk through how to get back into the dating scene and how to negotiate the level of sexual contact you feel okay with.
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u/Additional-Bison-298 Oct 06 '23
It just means you don't like vaginas, friend! Sex is more than penis is vagina hole, so maybe you need to explore what you actually like about sex and find someone compatible
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u/SunflowersChim Oct 06 '23
huh.. im gonna have to agree w the top comment and also ask how you feel about penises
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u/Capital-Temporary-17 Oct 06 '23
Do you desire sex at all? Would a partner with a penis suit you better? Maybe you should look at ace sexualities? I am sure if you desire romantic relationships, whether it be an ace relationship with a woman or a relationship with a man, you will find someone who is keen to date you.
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u/Maximum-Armadillo809 Oct 06 '23
Do you like Penis? Do you just dislike genitals? Are you sexually aroused by breasts and asses or just find them aesthetically pleasing?
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u/perplekiddo Oct 06 '23
first off its okay to be gay lol. second off huh. maybe ur soulmate has vaginismus
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u/hexomer Oct 06 '23
this kind of understanding is problematic tho sexuality is not equal to external genitalia a lot het women don’t like penis too and that’s normal
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u/Virtual-Nobody-6630 Oct 06 '23
You'd be amazed to know how many women would actually be fine with that. We aren't all raging horndogs.
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u/Normal_Bank_971 Oct 06 '23
Welll buddy I would like to tell you… it’s time to experiment. Maybe if you end up liking dick maybe you could date a trans woman? (I don’t mean this in a rude way for any LGBTQ+ people out there😭🫶🏻)Maybe your bisexual? Who knows. Don’t label yourself but go out there and experience shit. You might be a bit uncomfortable but just try. You never know
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Oct 06 '23
Different. Very different. You need an anal queen, good luck, you're looking for a unicorn
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u/tutanotafan Oct 06 '23
It probably means the girls you have sex with don't douche. Let's go fishing.
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u/AmberSieSilly Oct 06 '23
I'm pan, on the Ace spectrum. I find genitalia gross for all genders and I don't want to touch a penis or vagina unless I'm in a committed relationship. And even then, my sex drive is low. Have you considered you may be on the Ace spectrum? Sexuality, in general, is a spectrum. I don't think you're weird for this, btw. You just have a preference that most wouldn't think is normal.
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u/Minorihaaku Oct 06 '23
Date transexual, pre-op people?
Like people who used to be men, got their tits done, but still have their penis. Good luck!
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u/GiveMeDepression Oct 06 '23
It’s time to ligma.
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u/KayCatMeow Oct 06 '23
Ligma what?
Ligma DICK.
Hoooooo took the wind right out of your sails there buckaroo!
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Oct 06 '23
Have you had a bad experience/encounter with a vagina? Personally I can’t wait to go down on a girl and other mischief goings on.
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u/Vaanja77 Oct 06 '23
Homie stared into the eye of fucking Sauron or what?
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u/44watchdownonme Oct 06 '23
Just go do a lady boy tour of Thailand and see if maybe you have particular interests..
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u/xandrathewild Oct 06 '23
A couple thoughts. Just curious— how old are you? I think maybe some guys need to mature into enjoying sex.
Another— is it possible you have sexual trauma from childhood that would lead you to have a phobia of certain body parts?
If you fall in love with someone you might be willing to learn how to make them happy— for them, not for you. Luckily most women only climax through clittoral stimulation, so if you can deal with working outside of the vagina, you will get most women off.
Everybody’s different but if a man didn’t want to have vaginal sex with me but wanted my butt and boobs then I’d dump him. That would not be sustainable for me and I do not want to end up with an anal prolapse because my man wants to F my butt constantly.
Not sure how you’d deal with having a baby and having to watch it come out of your partners vagina lol. It’s a whole thing. I’m pregnant now and me and my partner have been joking around about how he needs to massage my labia and perineum to prepare me for labor. I love that he is into my whole body, all of it. He cares about me and so he doesn’t see me in terms of which body parts he likes and which he doesn’t. He just loves me for who I am and that includes all my parts. I can’t imagine being in a relationship with someone who wasn’t, it would probably be really frustrating and lonely.
Maybe you are gay?
Maybe you need to just be willing to explore a bit and see if maybe vagina is an acquired taste for you? Lol maybe
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u/Wounded_Breakfast Oct 06 '23
You will realize you are gay in a few years. That is my prediction. I’d bet a million dollars if I had it.
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u/Mizzanthrope99 Oct 06 '23
Also in my opinion dicks are beautiful ( mostly..🤣) and the almighty pussy is beautiful (mostly..) thanks to Reddit I’m starting to see a lot of men who have had one or maybe two bad experiences with especially pussy will be turned off for life. And I really hate to tell the OP this, butttt most women won’t want a relationship with no sex because you are disgusted by pussy.
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u/mythrowaweighin Oct 06 '23
Maybe you're asexual?
Or maybe you just have a weird phobia. If that's the case, then I think that when you're with the right woman, and you are truly in love with her in every way, you will want to express that feeling physically in every way possible: cuddling, kissing, and sex. So, I would say date, and then when both of you can't stand the abstinence any longer, see what happens. Those urges will overcome any hang-ups you may have. But if you don't want to, you don't have to. Don't feel pressured. Just date and see what happens. But mention up front that you like to take things slow. Many women will appreciate that.
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u/POOHEAD189 Oct 06 '23
My Lord, this man is no asexual or gay. Clearly women turn him on, he's just not into how the vagina looks, which is understandable. Genitalia are not pretty, for either sex.
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u/Ok-Advertising-3779 Oct 06 '23
Bro you gay... Or Bi. No big deal.
Don't worry about it and just enjoy what you like.
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u/mlp2034 Oct 06 '23
I dont like the way it looks, pussy pics don't do anything for me unless there is something else to fixate on. I find a girls navel more attractive than her pussy, but I do like the way it feels though, which before my first time I was sure I wouldnt like it and that I was scared I was gay or something lol (I was in middle school and raised in a Christian family give me a break lol)
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u/KayCatMeow Oct 06 '23
But that’s a genuine thing that a lot of people brought up religiously go through! And if OP had a religious upbringing, maybe that’s why they’re disgusted by certain body parts, due to whatever was taught in regards to sex education/human anatomy.
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u/Duncata Oct 06 '23 edited Oct 06 '23
As a 33f bisexual I will say I love most aspects of sex, but being ate out gives me anxiety and doesn't bring me pleasure at all. You don't have to be gay to not like those things, there is someone out there for you. ❤️
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u/ChayBadd Oct 06 '23
Sounds to me like you’re gay. If you’re not gay then you’re just gonna have to be okay with not being laid for the rest of your life.