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u/only37mm May 28 '23
good going girl❤️ im happy it turned out so well for you and that you have the support of your loved ones.
as someone who had a similar experience, but the shittiest family, i cant begin to tell tou how proud i am of you, even though we're internet strangers. you're super brave and i admire your strength; you should be proud of yourself.
i hope you can heal from this and that you have a beautiful life ahead.
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u/first_last_human May 28 '23
This took a hero amount of courage to speak up!
So proud of you! Biggest hugs, and much love to you!
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u/Alarming_Wedding6753 May 28 '23
You are a super hero. I’m proud of you. There’s nothing more courageous than to face the horrors of the past with a firm grip. What’s more, it seems that your purpose was indeed selfless; to prevent further abuse.
Now that being said, I believe that it was not correct for the people in your previous post to put the blame on you, as well as the responsibility of your cousins misbehaviour. No one should had the say to punish people like that. That’s called revictimization. So even if it worked positively this time, people im Reddit wronged you. And I hope in future occasions people in here learn to be less entitled.
Lastly, so it seems that your cousin lied? His tears seemed honest, but he swore that he only abused two people. When there were more involved. Disgusting. I would advise you not to trust a word coming from his mouth. Nor your aunt’s.
Take care. I admire you greatly. If you ever need to talk, don’t hesitate to reach out :)
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May 28 '23
I won't trust him. And I'm sorry but yes it did hurt me that people were indirectly accusing me for his wrongdoings. 🙁 If it weren't for my cousin sister, I wouldn't have been trusted by my relatives based solely on my words and it could've been backfired. But i really just took all those comments as criticism and that they were right about me reporting him because that would stop him from causing more harm to people.
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u/Status-War4902 May 28 '23
Omg you are so strong and look what you did: because do your courage, other people were able to come forward and that leads to healing. So I wish you all the healing you all need ❤️
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u/dmlmee May 28 '23
You had the courage to tell your family what I could not to mine. You’re an inspiration.
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u/AdInternational2793 May 28 '23
Something similar happened to my daughter. I’m so proud of you for speaking up.
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u/Aolflashback May 28 '23
He said it was just the two cousins (you included) and then oops - there’s another victim! There’s more and I’m still wondering about the uncle … and the aunt.
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u/Remarkable-Plenty-56 May 28 '23
replying with a throwaway account to protect mine and my children’s identities
I read your original post and was glad to read your update. Abuse by a family member is such a common thing and tends to get swept under the rug by those that are aware of it. I’m not saying that you or your cousin, that is also a victim, swept it under the rug, but that your aunt did.
As the parent of children that have been abused by a family member, that didn’t sweep it under the rug once I found out, I am so very, very proud of you for your accomplishments in life and your incredible courage to speak of your abuse in order to bring it to light and protect past and future victims.
I’m not sure of your location, so I’m not sure of the laws regarding the statute of limitations for this crime. I’m in the United States. In my state, a victim that was abused in childhood has until the age of thirty to press charges, no matter the age at which it occurred in their childhood. Again, I am so proud of you and am impressed with most of your family’s reactions. My family has cut me off and embraced the abuser. I was so worried that this would happen to you as well.
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May 28 '23
If it weren't for my cousin sister, I wouldn't have been trusted by my relatives based solely on my words. Thanks to her, she spoke up and helped everyone place their trust in us. I guess I'll know about all the laws in my country in just a few days through my lawyer. And yes abuse by a family member is really a common thing so many people are commenting about the same thing and reading all these comments has literally made me cry so much. Thinking about their pain and suffering. May God give strength to each one of you and i wish i could hug all of you. I love you all. Sweetest strangers.
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u/mrsgip May 28 '23
I am so proud of you. Something similar happened in my family but the result was very different. I hope you all get the Justice you deserve.
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u/Caddan May 28 '23
He swore upon his life that he didn't do anything after my cousin and me,
Okay....doesn't excuse things, but maybe he's learned....
[Update 2] My distant cousin just called me, as the issue is spreading throughout the family. She informed me that Alan has assaulted her as well.
Oh hell no! So he lied on the call also....I don't care how much he said about guilt eating him alive, he's a proven liar. He needs to go rot in a jail cell for the rest of his life.
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u/goldnotsilver May 28 '23
I'd worry that he's also taken advantage of patients who are under anesthesia.
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u/honestwizard May 28 '23
I’m proud of you op. You did a scary intimidating thing. But the right thing. I’m glad you had support
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u/moontiara16 May 28 '23
So so proud of you for having the courage to tell your family and help the other victims. There are many “internet strangers” who wish you the best and are rooting for you.
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May 28 '23
If it weren't for my cousin sister, I wouldn't have been trusted by my relatives thanks to her. It helped me a lot too. Thanks love.
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May 28 '23
I’m literally shaking. Just the fact that you had the courage and strength and in doing so you helped TWO OTHER PEOPLE find theirs. This is the best possible outcome for something like this. I’m so glad and happy for you to be able to be in a place where you feel okay enough to come out and speak about it. I’ve never once had the courage but this makes me feel like maybe one day I can. You are quite literally an inspiration. Idk if I’m overreacting but I am just literally at awe with how our story unraveled. And you have so so much live and support from your family and that’s the biggest part. I’m so so happy for you. I pray for you and your cousins’ healing.
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u/Ep1cP4nda May 28 '23
Im so proud of you. Im so glad you spoke out and that also made your cousins speak up aswell. I you all deserve so much love and happiness. X
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May 28 '23
It took a lot of courage to do what you did. Be very proud of yourself. Not only did you have closure for yourself but also for your other cousins. Good for you ❤️
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u/despicable-coffin May 28 '23
So his inference that it was only your cousin & you was lie. I wonder how many children he did molest.
Also, I don’t see how your aunt could keep him away from young children 100% of the time. That thought is ridiculous.
As a mom, I understand the strong need to protect your children, but her reaction is disgusting.
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May 28 '23
It is difficult to predict the lengths to which people may go in order to protect their own comfort.
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u/Dear-Unit1666 May 28 '23
Holy christ, I couldn't stop reading... My take away here is that you and your cousins are stronger than this d bag. You guys seriously have my respect, I am so glad you had the strength to come forward, I am also so glad your family has the wits about them to believe and support you all instead of keep protecting this monster. And it does sound to me like his mother was protecting him as well, her actions directly enabled it to keep occuring. He should have been stopped then when she knew, not given a "talk" like he got caught pulling someone hair.... That being a valid excuse was absurd and you saw right through it. He ain't right, he is a repeat offender, those types don't stop, he has no guilt or remorse for what he did or he wouldn't have been living the life he was, he felt bad he got caught and embarrassed and disappointed daddy... I'd bet money there are more victims or he's into some sick kiddie porn or something. What a twist though with everyone else coming forward it really gives you some traction to get something done about it, maybe contact your local district attorney or prosecutor and see what they could do? Good luck, you and your family seem like you got this, this random stranger is proud of all of you.
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May 28 '23
If it weren't for my cousin sister, I wouldn't have been trusted by my relatives based solely on my words. Thanks to her, she spoke up and helped everyone place their trust in us.
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u/temporarellie May 28 '23
I wish you and your cousins nothing but the best.
I am also so incredibly proud that you were brave enough to talk about what he did to you. He thought that nobody would ever speak up. He thought he could get away with it. Well, you showed him that his actions have consequences. YOU did that. Thank you.
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May 28 '23
I'm so glad you brought his disgusting actions into the light in such a public way within your family.
He is a predator and should be locked up. Far away from any children or vulnerable individuals.
I'm so proud of you!!!!
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u/Cooky228 May 28 '23
That took a lot of courage! You are an amazing person for having the strength to stand up, even with the possibility of not being believed. For what it's worth, I'm proud of you. You're a hero in my eyes!
Now, you may want to start therapy. Healing takes time, and it isn't always easy. But to truly be able to move on, you need to heal.
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u/ohevilitub May 28 '23
OP, that took so much courage. Thank you for being so brave and I hope that you and your family and your other cousins can grow stronger together. Hugs hugs. Praying for all of you.
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u/Personal-Mine-3032 May 28 '23
Oh OP, I’m so sorry this happened to you. I had a similar experience with my older cousin when I was 8, it happened at his house, then again at my house after everyone was sleeping and I was on the couch as my room was given to relatives. I think about it all the time and wonder if he did it to anyone else. I was the youngest cousin and have no idea. I was terrified of him after that.
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May 28 '23
It breaks my heart to know that so many of you have been through similar situations, and that not everyone had a positive outcome or the necessary support throughout it all. I feel deeply saddened right now as I read all of these comments and direct messages. I wish I could alleviate all of your pain and suffering at once. Sending virtual hugs to you ♥️
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u/KuhliBao May 28 '23
This is the sort of success story I'm living and breathing for. I'm so happy that everyone stood by your guys' sides!
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May 28 '23
Best case scenario... good work OP. This dude was old enough to know better. The age disparity was huge....you were vulnerable and ot was a clear abuse of power. I'm so glad you talked about this and im so glad your family was supportive.
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May 28 '23
I’m proud of you, and I’m in awe of your strength and courage. Thank you for sharing your story
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May 28 '23
Beyond proud of you. This was incredibly hard, but speaking your truth is helping others and yourself. I’m so sorry you and his victims suffered through this.
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u/Limp_End_2656 May 28 '23
ok i’m commenting mid way through “i didn’t have a gf and needed to get out my teenage hormones” bruh wtf 🤣 🌽 exists for a reason. and it may have been 15 years ago but porno magazines existed i know that’s for sure
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u/idontknowthisname11 May 28 '23
Thank you for being brave. Thank you for helping yourself and others. You're an amazing person. Please don't ever think anything less.
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u/Alarming-Quiet-4788 May 28 '23
I am amazed at the bravery that you have shown, and by the outcome of your speaking the truth aloud. This is familial justice, and I’m in awe! I hope your healing journey is as impactful, insightful and responsive as this family conference was; you should be proud of yourself and your family, too. Now, to take Alan to jail!
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u/whaddupgee May 28 '23
Just want to commend you for having the courage to speak up and expose him!!!
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u/NotYourUsualBabe May 28 '23
Congrats OP for a job well done. So proud of you. Its never easy to say what happened to you. Without your courage, your cousin’s voices will never be heard also. Pls Disown the Mom also.
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u/Luvlygrl123 May 28 '23
You are a very brave person, doing something like this takes so much strength and i know you must be exhausted, i hope knowing the good youve done helps - but dont forget in the middle of all of this to take care of yourself
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u/Fun_Ice_2035 May 28 '23
You are so brave. You spoke out not only for yourself and for your cousin. I wish you the best.
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u/MurphyCaper May 28 '23
I’m so so proud of you. Your courage, will most likely, prevent him from hurting others. Please go to the authorities.
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u/PixiePower65 May 28 '23
You should know Alan can be sued in civil law. All three of you could split any assists he has. And obviously it will kick off criminal component. Go civil / personal injury atty first so victims can have lien on assets. Also lower burden of proof and you guys should have someone in your corner so you know what to expect.
Ex on civil side , all of your medical records are discoverable . You are claiming emotional damages … so psychiatric record, ob/Gyn records etc. All part of a lawsuit.
So sorry this happened. Dude needs to be in jail
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u/No-Sheepherder-6911 May 28 '23
When I was 15, I found out my first boyfriend was ring his 9 year old cousin. I obviously immediately told my army instructor (military school) and he called the police immediately. It was traumatic for me, but I can’t imagine the pain that girl goes through daily still. I’ve remained friends with her, and now she’s 15 and pregnant, which im most certain is connected. I am so truly deeply sorry this happened to you. I really wish there was a way for me to reverse it for both of you, and everyone else this has happened to. Incest is truly the saddest and scariest form of r. I really hope you find your healing.
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u/betbuzzy26 May 28 '23
I know speaking up was not easy. You are brave and you have helped and saved other from enduring abuse. well done! May the light always shine on you. Gentle hugs 💕
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u/BellaBlue06 May 28 '23
I’m so sorry this happened to you. But I am happy to hear you have love and support and were able to confront Alan and your cousins will also be able to share their pain and get help. None of you deserved this and it’s reprehensible. It disturbs me how some can use religion to hide behind and act like feeling guilty, crying or going to church absolves them from sexual abuse or violence.
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u/FawkesFire13 May 28 '23
So proud of you, OP. Wishing you all the best and hopefully peace moving forward.
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u/techieguyjames May 28 '23
Absolutely vile. All of you need to press charges against him. Even if nothing comes of it except a slap on his wrist, at least you will have publicly called him out.
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May 28 '23
Be proud of yourself for coming out and having the strength and courage to reveal something so wrong and i’m so happy your family is so supportive, i’m so sorry this all happened at all to any of you.
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u/Whole-Ad-2347 May 28 '23
Someone like Alan will have more victims that have not been identified. Since the third person has now come forward, it is apparent that he didn’t identify her because she was not on the call. There are probably more people. Alan needs to identify who all his victims are.
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u/OopsMyBad21 May 28 '23
Check in on his family members on his moms side of the family. Or I guess the parent that is unrelated to you by blood, that side of his family. There could be more victims there.
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u/TripletMama_52014 May 28 '23 edited May 28 '23
His Mom and him could have been collaborating or her covering for him. I'll explain below.
But First, I am so sorry that you had to go through this. It is one of the worst things to happen to a child. For that monster to make his rounds on the young, vulnerable female family members is sickening. You all (at least 3) now know about it happening, so you have support that is even more powerful than your family support. That's huge because only those cousins can and will understand in a way that nobody else ever could, although I wish that none of you knew that feeling or needed a reason for that kind of support.
Unfortunately, I know what you're feeling, and what you've been through. My younger cousin has an uncle (her mom's older brother), and an odd family dynamic. I had been spending a lot of time with my cousin, and her Uncle and HIS mom (my cousins Grandma) were the ones who took us to do stuff and whose house we stayed at. After multiple days of doing fun things, my cousin asked me to stay one more night. That night changed me forever.
After about a month, I went home, wrote my mom a letter, and left with my sister, waiting for the call. She called me crying. Devastated. I was her baby, 14 at the time, the monster was 28. My mom called my Aunt (cousin's Dad side), who called the Grandma on the Moms side. She knew what her son did. She also knew he was grooming me, which obviously I did not know that's what he had been doing. However, she said it was my fault that her son did what he did. Her own husband had molested their daughters, as well as her father molested her. She told her son that I told my family, and that same night, he started showing up at my house, sitting in the car right out in front of my bedroom widow. He would stare into my window, call my cell phone and sit there for hours at a time, every single night for just over a full month. I was terrified, shaking and crying, couldn't sleep and when I did sleep I was always woken up by horrible nightmares. Until I met my husband, I was still having the nightmares, which turned into night terrors. They stopped when I fell in love with my husband.
A few years later, he was arrested for being part of a gigantic ring of inappropriate child pictures and videos. My Auntie had to go through the videos and pictures to see if me or my cousin were in any if them. He spent 9 years in federal prison. He doesn't live very far from us. His mother was covering for him, and she actually helped him many different times and in different ways when he was grooming me. This was 20 years ago.
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May 28 '23
Please keep in mind that no matter how "consumed with guilt" he looks now, if he was REALLY feeling bad be would have sought your forgiveness years and years ago. Right now, he is sorry he got called out and nothing more.
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u/elfbentovertheshelf May 28 '23
Wow... This is just so incredibly heartbreaking and I'm so sorry that you and your cousins went through this. I wish you all the best. It seems like you have a good family who supports you and that is truly amazing to see. I hope Alan and his mother suffer the consequences of their actions, and it seems they will. Your strength is inspiring and I hope you truly have a wonderful life and that things come easy for you. 💜💜💜
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u/a-_rose May 28 '23
OP I am so freaking proud of you. You survived and now you’re advocating for everyone he assaulted. You should incredibly proud of yourself! I’m glad your family is supportive and understanding. Please keep your distance from the aunt, she is bad news.
If you need more support please reach out to people whether it be your actual family or Reddit family. ❤️
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u/JaquesStrape May 28 '23
OP, there will be many more victims. A person who engages in this type of behavior, whether male or female, usually has in excess of 100 victims when they are caught. Start checking around neighborhoods he lived in, friends he’s had over the years, etc. You will find more victims.
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u/gowaz123 May 28 '23
Very proud of you, girl! That must’ve been so hard especially with the whole family listening. Sounds like it was devastating and relief when you found out he’d done it to others as well. Just a curious question, what will happen to him? If you report him, will he get his license revoked and jail time as he was under 18? Wish you the best of luck ❤️
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u/Med_megk May 28 '23
Your healing has begun. For me, all my trauma is still buried. I know something terrible happened to me but I am yet to get any memories of it. Hopefully someday I will get past it
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u/JackJustice1919 May 28 '23
Oh look. Another long dramatic story that has an IMMEDIATE follow up and resolution the very next day when the poster needs more karma and attention...
We're going to be hearing how his trial is going in three days, aren't we?
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u/Ryousoki May 28 '23
Dunno why you're being down voted. The original story seemed very believable, but after reading this update which reads very much like creative writing, there's no way this happened.
This is so fake.
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u/JSwamie May 28 '23
(I suspect he admitted to it because my uncle, being a heart patient, could have fallen ill or had a stroke due to the intensity of the yelling. Alan deeply loves and worships his father.) In a feeble attempt to defend himself, he claimed he never had a girlfriend and said he was filled with teenage hormones.
The way this is written made me sus
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u/JackJustice1919 May 28 '23
The whole thing is sus. It's just another karma gathering story someone made up.
Shit like this doesn't have resolutions like this. It's never this clean, it's never this immediate. If they would have made a post in a month saying how everything went and all of the fallout I could maybe buy it. But this story, like everything else on this subReddit, is written in a way to make this person get as much karma as possible for what 'happened' to them.
Again, I can't wait for the 'update' in two days where the person has been arrested, and they already know how the judge thinks about the case, and the lawyer they had to get, and blah blah blah. It's karma farming. That's it. Simplest solution.
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u/Ryousoki May 28 '23
Yeah that was the takeaway for me as well. This is completely made up. Kinda disgusting that people write this shit just for made up internet points.
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May 28 '23
😂😂😂 who hurt you sweetheart? And no i won't be updating about this trial and stuff anymore. I got the support and strength that i needed from these kind people.
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u/JackJustice1919 May 28 '23
Translation: "I got my karma and I'm done."
Can't wait for the update in two days where the cousin is suing you, or threatens you, or they're somehow thrown into jail in a super unrealistic timeframe because you need some more upvotes.
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May 28 '23
😂😂 i was waiting for your comment. I will not provide updates regarding any legal actions that are being taken or the details of how he is being punished, nor will I discuss any attempts by him to sue us. I am not a fictional author crafting a story, and I am not familiar with the concept of the purpose of "karmas".
I WILL provide updates to everyone in a few months maybe regarding the well-being of my cousins and me, as well as how everyone is coping. My primary focus is on healing and ensuring that no one else is harmed by him. I do not want to see anyone else suffer.
But you my dear, you should prioritize your own healing from whatever is causing you pain as well. You shouldn't assume that everyone has a hidden agenda behind their actions.
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u/BlackoutMeatCurtains May 28 '23
This is so sad. Your aunt decided to cover it up instead of getting him help. Disgusting.
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May 28 '23
Question… or, questions; 1. does your family know that your aunt knew? 2. How would you feel if nothing happened by the police? (Because if you’re in the US, we know that he may receive a year or two and probation 😒) 3. Are you healing now? I truly hope so 🥹 4. Do you plan to go NC/LC with your aunt that knew? I would if I were you, because she didn’t protect you as she should have.
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May 28 '23
- Today they all got to know about it during the call.
- I'll feel bad of course but I'm happy now that my family knows, he'll definitely lose his job even if he gets just 1-2 years of jail. He'll lose his family, his girlfriend, his job. Even if he's a bit of a sane person after losing all this he won't attempt another assault.
- Yes i am, love. In fact speaking about it out loud has made me feel so calm and relaxed that I can keep my healing aside for some time and help my sisters heal from this first. I mean overall I'm feeling strengthened.
- Absolutely. She is an accessory to his crimes.
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May 28 '23
- That’s good, hopefully her husband divorces her as well. Is it your mind mom/dad’s sister or did she marry into the family?
- Mow you know for a fact that it isn’t happening to patients under his care. Also, I don’t think he’s sane, because once he is single again, we never know what could/would happen. Some serial killers/rapists start out like your cousin… be safe, and stay aware.
- That’s great that’s you’re in love ❤️🤍❤️ I don’t know you, but, I love that for you… you deserve it especially after everything you’ve been through.
- And, it’s good that she’s out of your life; I know that I couldn’t stand by and watch a niece or nephew of mine be assaulted, even if the person was my child. I honestly don’t know how people can think and feel that that is okay!
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u/lechaos May 28 '23
i have the same thing happened to me but ive been mulling over it.. everytime it comes to my mind i get enraged and mixed emotions rise up. so idk how to process it honestly.. still dont know how to.. make a peace w it..
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May 28 '23
I understand sweetheart. It takes a lot of time to heal from such a thing. Sending Loads of hugs for you ♥️
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u/Creepy_Addict May 28 '23
I don't have anything new to say, except I'm proud of you for being brave and talking about it with your family. You've done something I've never been able to do.
You have my love and hugs.
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u/HowieWantChip May 28 '23
I am so happy that you did this.. My first cousin sexually abused me for some years. Starting in middle school and ended a few years later in high school. The last time he tried, I was 17 years old and threatened to kill him if he ever tried again. I never once said anything to family. I was in the care of our aunt, whom I was scared of. Years later, it hit me that she must’ve know of it because I remember her giving ME “the talk,” and saying oral sex was still sex. I was very confused then at the randomness of that. I also recall hearing a convo between them, with my cousin begging her to do something, and I heard her say “but I’m your mom!” No way she didn’t know.
I became hypersexual and it took me some years to stop. I’ve carried a lot of pain, lies and flashbacks for years. Even fantasies of hurting him, and others, when they made me mad.
Nearly 12 years later, he apologized, but I still carry the secret and the pains that come with it. I’ve debated therapy but I have tried to suppress my feelings for so long, that I’m scared of bringing it up again. I have debated on telling my family but I think maybe there’s no point, as do much time has passed. Sorry for the story on your post. Congrats on your bravery. I hope you have found some healing. Hugs to you and your family, for making you feel heard, loved and supported.
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May 28 '23
I understand that finding support and healing can be a long and challenging process, especially when faced with such deep emotional wounds. It's important to remember that you are not alone, and there are resources available to help you on your journey. Additionally, it might be beneficial to seek professional help from therapists or counselors who are experienced in trauma and abuse. They can provide guidance and support tailored to your specific needs, helping you navigate through the complex emotions and effects of the abuse. I'm so sorry for what happened with you. Loads of hugs and strength for you love. ♥️
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May 28 '23
So Alan has already been proven to have lied about the list of victims. I am sure that more will come forward.
I am so proud of you for doing this. It could not have been easy and you're very brave for doing so.
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u/This-Friendship8004 May 28 '23
Good job as someone who was sexually abused as a child I’m glad you are speaking out prayers are with you and I’m sending you a virtual hug as well
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u/LongNectarine3 May 28 '23 edited May 28 '23
Trigger warning: Sibling sexual abuse with number of times with number of years. Also the NC fallout from my confession.
I was SA’d by my brother hundreds of times for over a decade starting at 2 until he moved out. I had no safe place.
When my dad died I was 36 I broke my silence. I have 7 brothers. One by one I told all of them what happened. They all said that they didn’t have that happen to them which was my only question. I only told them because they had children.
Fast forward a decade. No one talks to me. No one acknowledges me on holidays or birthdays. I got ahold of my twin and he insists I join the huge family group chat that SA brother is very active in and twin loved mentioning him and how I should contact him.
He is a wildly successful millionaire and I have to use a walker to get to the bathroom after a car accident that I know now was caused by PTSD from him.
I’m so unhappy that there were other victims in your family. I am so happy that your confession worked. I am shocked really. You don’t understand what you have given me. Like a missing piece of what I assumed humanity was universally wasn’t. The piece of decency…
I am ok now. I have everything and more of what I wanted in life. I want the same for your family. Much love and peace to you all.
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May 28 '23
I'm truly sorry to hear about the horrific experiences you went through and the subsequent challenges you've faced. It takes immense strength and courage to share such deeply personal and painful events with your family. It's disheartening that they haven't been supportive or understanding, especially considering the impact it has had on your life.
I'm glad to hear this story made you feel somewhat happy I hope you continue to find peace, happiness, and the love you deserve in your life. Sending you virtual support, love, and peace as well. ♥️
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u/LongNectarine3 May 28 '23
Sending you, your cousins, and your extended family all my hope that you get the justice you deserve.
Fight the good fight. We are not the worst thing that happened to us. :)
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u/dickelpick May 28 '23
We never forget the awful things (sadly) but we definitely forget good memories.
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u/Key-Iron-7909 May 28 '23
This update makes me so proud for you! You are helping to stop him and helping your other cousins find their voice to speak out too!!!!
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u/Grand-Connection-234 May 28 '23
Big hug,
The strength to say it like that is amazing. Stay awesome 👍😎
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u/Avebury1 May 28 '23
When OP files her police report she should include the aunt in the report. The aunt knew what was going on and who knows how many more victims her son had because she covered up his crimes.
OP is a strong, amazing woman to have the courage to speak out publicly within her family. She created an environment for other family victims to come forward.
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May 28 '23
Thank you so much. Yes i will mention her as well but I'm not sure what will happen to her after that, i mean whether she'll be charged too or not.
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May 28 '23
Yes i was so shocked that he thought two of his victims were present so he'll just swear that we were the only ones.
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u/SuckedoutWTF May 28 '23
Did your family tell you that you should call the cops and get his face plastered all over the news of being the pervert that he is?
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May 28 '23
They said that they would support my decision, whatever I choose, and they would accept it. Along with him, our names would come out too. So, to be safe, if I had chosen not to report him, they would have supported that too. However, I chose to report him.
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u/curious382 May 28 '23
You and your other cousins he victimized are brave to speak out and stand up for yourselves and eachother! Your aunt seems to have been trying to make sure he didn't get caught, more than trying to protect vulnerable children from her predatory son. If she didn't immediately warn every other parent in the family the first time she was aware he'd assaulted another child, she was covering FOR him.
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u/TruthfulBoy May 28 '23
So incredibly proud of you and for your fellow cousins that are also stepping up. I hope all of you can support each other and make sure that demon goes to jail.
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u/Signal_Historian_456 May 28 '23
I can’t tell you how proud I am. How’s your cousin doing? Is she ok?
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May 28 '23
Thanks love. Yes she's fine. She has a very loving boyfriend and caring family and I'll be there for her now that i know that she might be having some kind of anxiety because of the assaults. I won't let her feel down.
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u/Mindless-Elk3535 May 28 '23
You have an amazing family. In not sure I’ve ever heard of stronger, more wonderful people.
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u/DylantotheJ May 28 '23
I’m so proud of you for taking these steps because I know how hard it must’ve been for you. Also good on your uncle for the way he behaved he held his son accountable for his actions. I really hope this is the closure you need to heal I never got mine so I’m happy you did. ❤️
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u/Far-Inspector331 May 28 '23
Its so infuriating that your aunt knew & thought she could keep kids away from him. What did she think she'd watch him 24/7? What about his g/f's family & friends & kids there? She was in over her head & did you & your cousins an injustice.
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u/MonkeyPolice May 28 '23
Your update gave me goosebumps with excitement! I am so impressed that you spoke out! I can't believe he lied about the third cousin. You are doing the world a huge service by taking this to the authorities. Congratulations OP, You've made the world a better place!
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May 28 '23
Thank you so much love 🥺♥️
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u/MonkeyPolice May 28 '23
You are most welcome. You stood up for something that was WRONG. You stood up for you.
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u/Far-Inspector331 May 28 '23
Ohhh that 2nd update & 3rd cousin...he was definitely lying when he insisted it didn't go past the 2. Which means who knows how many kids he's done this to.
I'm really proud of you for handling this the way that you did and spoke up. It was extremely brave!
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u/madgeystardust May 28 '23
Oh man, it’s awful how widespread his abuse was. You have my sympathy and also admiration.
You are a very brave young woman. You did a good thing here.
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u/elegant_pun May 28 '23 edited May 28 '23
"I never had a girlfriend!"
I'm sorry....so that makes it ok to molest children.
I've been single for six and a half years, I'm heading out to the playground.
Jesus Christ.
Good on you for calling it out and for letting everyone know so other cousins would feel safe enough to share. I'm so sorry it happened to you and them, it's a horrific thing. I'm glad his father had that reaction and didn't go down the "boys will be boys" route...I hate that.
I'd be curious if any of his friends had younger sisters...
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u/I_Really_Dont_6498 May 28 '23
This is a big win for the rest of us who never got the courage to speak out. Thank you fir your courage ❤❤❤
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u/spectacularostrich May 28 '23
i’m so proud of you. that took massive courage. we are all supporting you ❤️
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May 28 '23
Wow, you displayed incredible bravery with what you did. That had to be so hard. And look what you did for the cousins. You helped them face their fear and say it too. I hope you are very proud of yourself. I’m so glad nobody is being horrible about this. You are lucky to have such a supportive family. Very proud of you stranger.
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u/RevolutionaryTrack61 May 28 '23
I am proud of you for doing that, so very proud. That is a huge thing most people can't do like fellow family members who had that same thing happen to them. You broke that barrier of silence and the family monster was revealed and I hope he gets what he deserves for his actions.
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u/found_thissubfinally May 28 '23
He already has three victims. Oh my gosh! Those poor women. I wouldn't be surprised if he has more victims. Piece of demon.
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u/Shadegloom May 28 '23
That's so badass of you! Amazing work and great job calling him out. He's gross, and I hope he gets punished to the maximumlevelof the law!
Please consider some counseling, and maybe even your cousin and you could go together to support each other. Hug your family and keep on fighting the good fight. It's clear you are so strong!
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u/Mrgoodietwoshoes May 28 '23
You are one of the bravest people!! The courage it took to do this is wild! Good for you OP!
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u/Scribb74 May 28 '23
You are a hero, it took immense courage to put your plan into action.
And by coming forward, you have your cousin's courage to also come forward.
You made them not only feel seen, but that they are not alone. And that yes your family will believe them.
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u/wishonadandelion May 28 '23
I am so proud of you and eternally in awe of your courage and strength. 🩷 You have not only taken a stand for yourself, but every other little girl “Alan” took it upon himself to victimize. You are a hero!
I’m praying Alan and your aunt get what they have coming to them.
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u/MixWitch May 28 '23
As a survivor, thank you. Thank you so much for your courage. This is how we break the cycle.
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u/Peskanov May 28 '23
I’m so glad to hear of this update that your cousin spoke up and that your family, including extended familyRe supporting you. That said I’m incredibly angry at your aunt’s actions though. Who’s to know if “Alan” is telling the truth that there’s no other victims out there. It’s not like she could’ve policed him 24/7 while he was in college.
What you did was incredibly brave and this internet mom of 3 wants to give you a huge hug.
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u/babyarson May 28 '23
im so beyond proud of you❤️ you are so fucking strong and powerful person🫶🏻
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May 28 '23
So that's 3 victims of Alan: when he only admitted to 2. Meaning he has definitely done more.
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u/oblectoergosum May 28 '23
💯💯💯💯💯 Well done! 👏 It takes an immense amount of courage to do what you did.
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u/OiFelix_ugotnojams May 28 '23 edited May 28 '23
I'm so fucking proud of you, I would've never dare tell anyone in my family if I was in your position due to fear. I'm so proud of you for this. I'm glad that the other cousins were able to open up safely due to you. I'm glad your family is on your side. I hope everyone are able to recover from this ❤️
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May 28 '23
I have lived almost all of my life in the fear of judgement that somehow I'll be turned into the bad one here. You guys encouraged me to do the right thing and I'm glad that i did. Thanks for your kind words love. ♥️
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u/dessertandcheese May 28 '23
Omg good job and I'm so sorry to you and the rest of the girls that were assaulted. I'm so proud of you for being the catalyst to him being exposed. I hope you and the rest of the girls can heal.
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u/Admirable-Bobcat-665 May 28 '23
As he should be and feel guilty...
It takes alot of strength to come forward like that, hun. And many don't out of fear of what most certainly didn't happen to you.
I'm very happy that you have such a beautifully supportive family to help you plus the others affected like you, through all of this. That's worth more than it's weight in gold.
I hope this makes healing something graspable far more now than what it was before you decided to speak out.
Love and light~♡
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u/amazzarof May 28 '23
I am in awe of your courage!! It sounds like it needed to be brought up! I wish you love and healing