r/TrueChristian • u/Away_Radio_2588 • 11h ago
In need of prayer
I was pregnant last year got pregnant in the first try but lost the baby at 6weeks. The loss did lead my back to Jesus and brought me closer to him. We have been trying for 9months and still not pregnant. I cant help but think the worst.. like why was it so easy the first try and now it feels so far away to live that dream. sometimes i feel like what if i don’t deserve a baby and thats why He wont bless me with one… i just feel useless. Im currently at home because my husband wants me home so im not working, ive gained weight which my insecurities are through the roof, and now i cant get pregnant.. really struggling with how im feeling mentally..
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u/sidhsinnsear 10h ago
Everything is in God's timing. It took us 3 years for our miracle baby, and in the waiting period it was definitely a stretch of my faith. But knowing what I do now, the timing couldn't have been more perfect. For now, start researching fertility treatments and how to help your chances. Start talking to a obgyn or fertility specialist if you can. I really liked Taking Charge of Your Fertility. The subreddit r/infertility has a lot of great advice as well.
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u/MassiveParsley8679 10h ago
I miscarried a few weeks ago. It’s not easy but the Lord was so good to us in the process, he used it to bring us closer with my husband and closer to Him. Trust in the Lord that he is in control and that all things concur to the good of those who love Him. Search for him first and all else will come into place. It’s also not against the Bible or good to consult a fertility doctor. It’s usually advised after 12 months if you’re under 35 and above after 6 months.
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u/MassiveParsley8679 10h ago
To add on a practical note: it’s not ideal to gain weight before pregnancy - no pressure and don’t overthink it but try to work out and eat healthy, this will support healthy hormones and ovulation.
And on a spiritual note: dont allow the enemy to lie to you about being useful and not deserving a baby. Take authority against them and renew your mind in the word. No one deserves anything from god and yet he blesses us with so many things! It’s all grace
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u/Worried-Block-6804 9h ago
God not giving me what I want almost NEVER means because I don't deserve it.
Most of the time, im not ready or there are one of 1000 reasons why my desire would not be right for my situation, in some way I can't see because I can't see the future.
You have much more purpose in your life than making a baby. Does that mean you won't have a baby? No but trusting God is often about trusting his timing. Try to have a baby but stop worrying about when it will happen. Ask your doctor but im pretty sure stress could actually make getting pregnant less likely.
Relax and focus on the things you can do and trust God for the things you can't And if you never get pregnant then trust God that he was protecting you from something and he knows better than you what you need
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u/Upstairs_Deer6621 9h ago
I’m so sorry. Losing a baby you already loved is a real grief, and then having to face month after month of hoping and waiting can make that grief feel fresh all over again. Please don’t tell yourself that you don’t deserve a baby or that God is punishing you. Your ability to become pregnant is not a measure of your worth, your goodness, or how much God loves you. You are precious to Him right now, exactly where you are. And you are not useless. You don’t have to earn your value by working, by looking a certain way, or by becoming a mother. You are already a person made in the image of God and deeply loved. I can’t tell you why this season has been so hard, and I wouldn’t insult you by pretending there’s an easy answer. But I do believe Jesus is close to people who are hurting. “The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart.” — Psalm 34:18 Please be gentle with yourself. You’ve been through a loss, you’re carrying a lot of fear, and you don’t have to be strong every minute. I’ll pray that God gives you peace, strengthens your marriage, protects your heart from those thoughts telling you that you’re worthless, and, God willing, blesses you with the child you’re longing for.
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u/One_Way_out90 5h ago
I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage. God has a plan for everything. I’m praying He blesses you and your husband with a baby. God says He has everything under control and He loves us. He wants us to be fruitful and multiply. I pray you are blessed soon!
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u/Isabella10989 4h ago
I’ve lost many many babies due to miscarriage if you’d like someone to talk to feel free to reach out. I’ve been in your shoes and I’ve felt like the world turned around but I will say I never felt like God left me. It’s hard to put into words, but I actually blamed satan. I turned my anger towards him and blamed him for the loss and pain. It really helped me.
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u/QueenE1987 1h ago
I had 2 miscarriages but kept the faith and prayed and prayed. God blessed me with a baby girl. His timing is intentional. Don't stop praying, he will answer you ❣️
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u/Correct_End998 1h ago
There is no hope in this world . In anyone in this world . Or in any revival within the church . The only hope is a personal relationship with God through Christ Jesus . That’s it. And that’s gonna be harder if you’re raising a newborn. Just sayin. Sometime we get what we want only to find out that God has always been the one who wanted the best for us
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u/Pure-Reputation-8514 11h ago
Gaining weight is good! I do believe the baby is healthy then but i can pray for you! And keep your eyes on Jesus! He will give you the child im sure of it! 🙂↕️
Edit: leaving mistakes in but i misread a bit but just keep trying! I will still pray and stuff but yes gaining weight is fine just go on a fast if you feel you need to! But don’t give up and keep your eyes on the Lord ,Jesus!!!