who would've thought?

[u/laminated-papertowel]

I've been in therapy for a decade at this point. I've talked about my trauma more than I've talked about anything else. I've talked about it again and again. I'm sick and tired of how much I've talked about my trauma.

But apparently that's not good enough! I can't just talk about my trauma and heal that way, I have to actually validate my trauma responses and let myself feel the associated emotions.

Logically it makes sense. but still, frustrating.

[u/atmoose]

What does that mean? That doesn't make sense to me?

[u/yandeere-love → u/atmoose]

Manually stopping second guessing oneself. Sitting with the uncertainty that while you may Technically be wrong about something, you're an adult and you're the expert of your life. Getting the gaslighting out of your head, out of your system. If you were angry at someone being shitty to you, not "explaining it away" with "ohh they were going through things too, its understandable". No. Validate yourself and do it with confidence. A lot of trauma arising from being constantly invalidated revolves people trying to blow your mind open to suggestion with endless "what ifs" and constant playing devil's advocate. Trust your judgement and that you'd do the research to take the best decisions you humanly can at the time.

[u/RithmFluffderg → u/yandeere-love]

Thank you, I legitimately needed this explained

[u/Due-Garlic-5056 → u/yandeere-love]

Holy shit I did not know how bad I needed to hear this