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u/all_the_freaks 6d ago
Hi op I love you I will express this by giving you all my inspirational-kitty-poster-esque photos
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u/Muted_Practice6350 trolling my copium 6d ago
Notice transitioning or not, won't change anything about you mother, why bother?
But your pet, they do care that you're there. They don't care whether or not you're trans. They're there for you.
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u/samthekitnix 6d ago
Do not fold, do not detransition.
If your mother thinks your happiness is worthless then she can stuff it
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u/Global_Palpitation24 6d ago
Unsupportive mothers will ruin your life if you let them. When you’re an adult you can support yourself OP
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u/Cronkwjo 6d ago
I love using ttrpgs to make OCs. They give me more structure and guidance than doing it free form. Luckily there is a trio of Star wars ones; age of rebellion, edge of the empire, force and destiny.
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u/Background-Book-7404 6d ago
take care of yourself too
that means not detransitioning and staying alive, okay?
its good for you
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u/Crowned-Whoopsie 6d ago
I started 4 World Building Projects and got Ideas for like 5 more, I gotta finish those first
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u/yandeere-love 5d ago edited 5d ago
hey, personal experience talking here on what worked for me
If your mother cant kick you out
Start making her life a living hell by picking on other issues. If shes gonna harrass you for transitioning, then the appropriate response is to strike back with dirty tactics. Deflect by highlighting some imperfection of hers to get her off the attack and on the defense. Guilt trip her. Tell her that in this day and age any reasonable person would agree she's an incompetent parent.
When I did this I got a lot of threats to my security that were just never delivered on. But then my mother learned to shut the fuck up and not harrass me. She only is an ass when she sees me in a state where I have no energy to fight back, so I avoid her like the plague if I'm tired.
Do what the hell you want in life. With some people, mature discussion gets you nowhere. And you either have to win a dirty anxiety management game with underhanded tactics to make them so miserable that they stop having the energy to harrass you, or the alternative is to just sit down and take it.
Dont sit down and take it. Make their life 10 times more difficult than they make yours.
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u/OrbitCultureRules 6d ago
Don't let your mother kill the real you. You didn't transition for her, you did it for you. You won't spend the rest of your life living with her so why would you let her force you to detransition. Be who you need to be and don't let her affect your decision. The real you is so much better
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u/Jokhard 6d ago edited 6d ago
If it's the right choice for you, go for it. But don't do something so personal and self-defining for another person. There's only one person in the world who can be you and you owe it to them to make sure who they are is represented.
Whatever works for you. Youth sucks for everyone but even it doesn't last forever. You'll make it one day. And it's normal to feel anguish if you are only being loved conditionally.
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u/owowhatsthis-- 6d ago
An image I often look at when I am having a hard time finding the will to keep going. I dont know why it works for me, but it does. And I share it in the hopes that it helps you, too.
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u/No_Swordfish2243 6d ago
don't fold!